Is anyone else in this same space?

i was in a similar situation with my first baby. my ex husband would work 1+ month on and 1 month off and would hardly be able to use his phone during that time (they didn’t have good service or internet). he left for work when our son was 2 months and didn’t come back until he was almost 6 months.
imo it doesn’t matter how long they’re gone it’s how they act when they come back. for example my ex husband would come home and basically completely ignore all the diaper changes, feedings, nap times, etc and only wanted to do the fun stuff that comes with being a parent. he’d use the excuse “but i never get to see him”.. i’m not saying that’s exclusively why i left but it definitely played a contributing factor.

Sorry you’re going through this postpartum. Having the presence of my husband the first month was very relieving for me and helped me recover from my cs.

My first thought on this is… If you divorce you’ll still bear the brunt of taking care of the child with probably just visits and some money from him (which is also what’s happening right now)

Secondly, what’s his overall attitude like? Is he loving and caring to you and you’re just feeling more alone because of pp and the baby? If his normal character outweighs this current issue i don’t think it’s worth divorcing, if he’s already an abusive person then divorce

Third, I think you need to have a mindset change that you’re doing it for you and your child and not expect too much from him (this is because he’s out there trying to provide for the family and probably doesn’t have an alternative right now), it doesn’t relieve him of not acknowledging the work you do, most men are oblivious of this until they do it alone for like a week.