Mum guilt (help)

I just want to open up that I’ve been feeling a bit pressured when it comes to playing with my baby. It can tire me out, and I sometimes feel guilty when I put him in his bouncer or on his playmat. I feel like I always have to be playing with him or doing tummy time, and I end up stressing about how to entertain him or what’s best for his development

Do you have any apps, YouTube links, or blogs you use for baby activities?

What are you all experiencing? Do you feel the same way?

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Honestly I used to have the same guilt but truthfully not doing anything is as good as doing something. They need their quiet time to observe their surroundings and they’ll happily do so! When I knew this, I stopped putting so much pressure on myself and we kinda just hang out while I have a coffee and watch tv and he goes in his swing or playmat, every so often I’ll chat to him, narrating what I’m doing etc but really ease the pressure on yourself, it’s not realistic to be playing all day every day!
I find now there’s no more pressure, we have much better bonding time and I enjoy it now. X

How many day naps does your baby have ? How long are their wake windows ?
A typical wake window for me looks like this:
Wake up
Feed- 20 mins
Cuddle and interact with baby- 15 mins
Walk in pram if nice out side/ play on play mat/ tummy time/kick about without nappy (I'm
Interacting in the background but pottering about also and tending to other kids! ) - 30 mins
More cuddles - 10 mins
Nap again

They don't always look like this. This is a typical day when I've not much else to do. There are others where I have to go out and do things or we visit people or I have to work. Baby will be constantly learning and developing with a very simple routine and just by being alongside you or held by you. Don't feel like you have to constantly entertain whilst they are awake x x x

We all feel guilty for something being a parent is hard. My youngest is 13 weeks and hes our 3rd. We have a toddler who is a whirl wind so baby doesnt get much time on the play mat or tummy time for his safety in the day when shes awake 🙈

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Does my husband gaslight me? (Texts in comment)

I have been taking care of myself lately and focusing on me because I let myself go for years. I lost 30 pounds I’m feeling great. I’m starting to be so embarrassed about how my husband treats me. Like I don’t know why I allowed this for 16 years. Please read the texts in the comments and tell me if this is actually gaslighting.

Do you have 2 or more boys? Make me feel like I’m not alone…. Pls!!!

Im a mum of 3 boys ages - 5, 9 & 10
(also have a 5 month old girl ;)
My boys send me CRAZY!
I feel it’s on a daily basis with their fighting amongst themselves (whether physical or verbal), constant sh””t stirring or even just bullying each other. It’s like pecking order, oldest fights with the middle child then middle child does the same to the youngest. Not a day goes by that they’re not at each other.
Im going insane!!! Same sh””t every day…. Leave him alone, don’t speak to each other like that, thats his give it back, keep your hands to yourself, don’t do that again, why did you have to hurt him, apologise, can’t you all just be nice to one another. Im like a broken record. It never f””kin ends!!!!!!

Will it ever end!??? How do you cope or handle your boys, is it the same at your house?

Rant - disconnected partner

I think I just need to vent tbh… my husband resents me breastfeeding and resents me for being able to soothe our child and he can’t…

They’re 4 months and I’m trying to explain she still sees me as a part of her and it’ll change when she’s older. I give him tips and it improved but she just cries at him all the time. Ask him to cheer up and not sound angry - makes it worse 😞 he’ll walk off or go on his phone ignoring her whilst she looks at him and blames me for causing it…

He won’t hear it and keeps arguing with me since 6 months pregnant. He doesn’t like that we contact nap (reflux and feeding) and living situation… like I get it but I’m struggling and need his support as I have PPD.

We have none from either family members and it’s just passive aggressions from all…

Anyone got advice or going through it too?

Should your husband help?

Let's say you're a stay at home mom with 2 kids, and your husband works. He pays the rent and bills, Should he help you clean, cook sometimes when you're overwhelmed, help with laundry?.

Help🥲

Me and my “partner” are going through a huge shift in our relationship and we’ve both decided it’s best if we split.
We have 2 young children (3&1) and both names on our mortgage that we’ve only had for a couple of years.
I work part time due to minimal childcare & he is the bread winner and provides for most things; we do both pay towards mortgage & bills though.
How would we go about the mortgage? I cannot afford it alone and I currently don’t get any help from the government as he earns too much (it goes off household).
How would I eventually get the help I worry I’ll struggle until I get this? I can’t work more hours due to no childcare around us.
It really is so important I get this all sorted asap for a smooth transition for the children and for my own mental health as staying in this relationship is draining and it’s affecting my parenting.

Cleaning because I'm angry/ stressed

Anyone else clean after an argument with their spouse? He isn't even awake yet and am already stressing having to be near him when he wakes up. I'm very non confrontational, and pregnancy hormones aren't helping, but it's a stupid situation. So there I am cleaning my kitchen, pantry and fridge, even made sure to water the grass. Already been up 3 hours, and it hasn't helped