Does my husband gaslight me? (Texts in comment)

I have been taking care of myself lately and focusing on me because I let myself go for years. I lost 30 pounds I’m feeling great. I’m starting to be so embarrassed about how my husband treats me. Like I don’t know why I allowed this for 16 years. Please read the texts in the comments and tell me if this is actually gaslighting.

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This isnt gaslighting, this is just being an asshole. Fuck that guy

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I don’t think he was gaslighting. You’re right that he shouldn’t have that accessible. Shouldn’t even be doing it really

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Gaslighting? No. Rude? Absolutely. All that cussing is unnecessary, it's so hard for people to take accountability. The vape definitely shouldn't be accessible to the kids.

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Dude if my partner spoke to me like that... 😅

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He’s not gaslighting you but he doesn’t respect you.

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The way he speaks to you, this guy hates you 😵‍💫

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I agree with all these comments. I am sorry he talks to you this way and I hope you can find the strength to have your own life away from him (still correcting with him) I know this may sound like a jump but it is what would need to happen for you to have a sound mind.

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Do you have 2 or more boys? Make me feel like I’m not alone…. Pls!!!

Im a mum of 3 boys ages - 5, 9 & 10
(also have a 5 month old girl ;)
My boys send me CRAZY!
I feel it’s on a daily basis with their fighting amongst themselves (whether physical or verbal), constant sh””t stirring or even just bullying each other. It’s like pecking order, oldest fights with the middle child then middle child does the same to the youngest. Not a day goes by that they’re not at each other.
Im going insane!!! Same sh””t every day…. Leave him alone, don’t speak to each other like that, thats his give it back, keep your hands to yourself, don’t do that again, why did you have to hurt him, apologise, can’t you all just be nice to one another. Im like a broken record. It never f””kin ends!!!!!!

Will it ever end!??? How do you cope or handle your boys, is it the same at your house?

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I think I just need to vent tbh… my husband resents me breastfeeding and resents me for being able to soothe our child and he can’t…

They’re 4 months and I’m trying to explain she still sees me as a part of her and it’ll change when she’s older. I give him tips and it improved but she just cries at him all the time. Ask him to cheer up and not sound angry - makes it worse 😞 he’ll walk off or go on his phone ignoring her whilst she looks at him and blames me for causing it…

He won’t hear it and keeps arguing with me since 6 months pregnant. He doesn’t like that we contact nap (reflux and feeding) and living situation… like I get it but I’m struggling and need his support as I have PPD.

We have none from either family members and it’s just passive aggressions from all…

Anyone got advice or going through it too?

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Me and my “partner” are going through a huge shift in our relationship and we’ve both decided it’s best if we split.
We have 2 young children (3&1) and both names on our mortgage that we’ve only had for a couple of years.
I work part time due to minimal childcare & he is the bread winner and provides for most things; we do both pay towards mortgage & bills though.
How would we go about the mortgage? I cannot afford it alone and I currently don’t get any help from the government as he earns too much (it goes off household).
How would I eventually get the help I worry I’ll struggle until I get this? I can’t work more hours due to no childcare around us.
It really is so important I get this all sorted asap for a smooth transition for the children and for my own mental health as staying in this relationship is draining and it’s affecting my parenting.

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Does my husband gaslight me? (Texts in comment)

I have been taking care of myself lately and focusing on me because I let myself go for years. I lost 30 pounds I’m feeling great. I’m starting to be so embarrassed about how my husband treats me. Like I don’t know why I allowed this for 16 years. Please read the texts in the comments and tell me if this is actually gaslighting.

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Does anyone else want to opt out of being a parent occasionally?!

I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old I’ve not have a good night sleep for nearly 5 years. I wake up to the sound of crying every morning so im overstimulated before my feet touch the floor. Its not even 8.00 am yet and ive got poo on the wall, ive stepped in wee because my 4 year old has just discovered that people wee standing up and wanted to see if she could do it too. Babys still crying because they want to go to back sleep but cant because my 4 year olds crying at the top of her lungs because she dug through the bin and found a picture she made thats now covered in stuff that should stay in the bin! I hate shouting but today i did 🥲🥴Partner came back in off a night shift and im currently hiding in the other bathroom. I love them more than anything but i cant help but think wth have a done having 2 kids when i like sleep and love to be left alone😭. Anyone else care to share?

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So I have my sister staying with us for a couple weeks. She has an 8 year old and he has frequent accidents. He poops his pants every day and just sits in it. Then lies that he didn’t and doesn’t want to clean himself up. Even if she’s around he still is just walking around like that. I’ve had to constantly clean the couches and bathroom and really everything. Including the washing machine . I mean I woke up one morning and there was poop on the kitchen floor!!! Like I have a 1 year old that’s not ok. I don’t know what to do.

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