I have been taking care of myself lately and focusing on me because I let myself go for years. I lost 30 pounds I’m feeling great. I’m starting to be so embarrassed about how my husband treats me. Like I don’t know why I allowed this for 16 years. Please read the texts in the comments and tell me if this is actually gaslighting.
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This isnt gaslighting, this is just being an asshole. Fuck that guy

I don’t think he was gaslighting. You’re right that he shouldn’t have that accessible. Shouldn’t even be doing it really

Gaslighting? No. Rude? Absolutely. All that cussing is unnecessary, it's so hard for people to take accountability. The vape definitely shouldn't be accessible to the kids.

Dude if my partner spoke to me like that... 😅

He’s not gaslighting you but he doesn’t respect you.

The way he speaks to you, this guy hates you 😵💫

I agree with all these comments. I am sorry he talks to you this way and I hope you can find the strength to have your own life away from him (still correcting with him) I know this may sound like a jump but it is what would need to happen for you to have a sound mind.