Does anyone else want to opt out of being a parent occasionally?!

I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old I’ve not have a good night sleep for nearly 5 years. I wake up to the sound of crying every morning so im overstimulated before my feet touch the floor. Its not even 8.00 am yet and ive got poo on the wall, ive stepped in wee because my 4 year old has just discovered that people wee standing up and wanted to see if she could do it too. Babys still crying because they want to go to back sleep but cant because my 4 year olds crying at the top of her lungs because she dug through the bin and found a picture she made thats now covered in stuff that should stay in the bin! I hate shouting but today i did 🥲🥴Partner came back in off a night shift and im currently hiding in the other bathroom. I love them more than anything but i cant help but think wth have a done having 2 kids when i like sleep and love to be left alone😭. Anyone else care to share?

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My husband works so much

He works at 4 am but has to get up at 3am he gets home at 7 and then plays on his phone in our room until he goes to bed at 8 I would be EXHAUSTED if I had his schedule I don’t know how he does it but I’ve been busting my ass too and I’m so tired 😩 I get absolutely no breaks what do I even do? I feel so guilty for saying I’m tired? Uhggg anyone have advice?

Should I confront him?

I’m literally due in 5days…. My partner smokes (I used to prior to being pregnant…no biggie at all)
He ran out of papers and left to go buy some but it was taking unusually long I called 2-3 times no answer his excuse is the phone was in crease of car (basically didn’t hear it couldn’t find it while driving back) he comes home and I see his phone get a couple texts while he walks off I look over and it’s whole convo with a girl he just went to smoke with like he literally left the house while I was putting our daughters to bed (both two under two)….. I really don’t know what to do or how confront him with out him playing victim or stressing myself days before labor

Opinions!!

I was in a mood washing the bottles.. I di them everyday and sanitize them
My husband came in and said what's wrong, I said im just doing my motherly duties lol he laughed and said I work everyday too! I laughed and said no you dont, i do this every single day without no hesitation. You get to relax from work but a mother shows up everyday without any hesitation for their babies. I beg to differ on this subject because some days can be harder than others as a mother. But no matter what we show up! With no break! No clock in or out.

Useless father & in laws

I’ve been in a relationship for 7 years, 7 years of hell. Me and my partner have a daughter together she is 2 years old and since the day she was born I’ve done everything myself, her father is way too interested in gambling, pubs & clubbing, sometimes he goes out for 12 hours straight. He goes to work and comes back and doesn’t do anything, every day is the same, I feed our child, bath her, play with her, 24 hours a day she’s by my side and he does f*ck all, always excuses saying he’s tired, for 2 years I’ve never ever had a single break, he is a useless father, pays no attention to her whatsoever and walks all over me, he thinks going out for 12 hours at a time is acceptable, he allows himself to go out but if I mention that I’m going out he puts his guards up and becomes controlling. He is a complete narcissist. Every week we’re arguing over his actions and I’ve had so many conversations with him to be a dad. Also, I’ve had 7 years of hell from his family, constant drama, tension & stress, always wanting to cause problems in our relationship, they even went as low as wishing me a miscarriage and said I was too big to carry a healthy pregnancy. They don’t bother with our daughter either, they can’t spare 10 minutes of their time to see her but blame me that they have no bond with her. I’m utterly fed up with everything, I feel so stuck. If I end things my daughter will have to go to there’s but she doesn’t know them and not to mention my partners brother does drugs too so I can’t trust any of them and he’s useless so there’s no way he could care for her properly. But if I stay I’m gonna have a lifetime of unhappiness, feeling worthless, being walked all over, the only reason I’m with him now is to protect my daughter from having to go to that family. I just really don’t know what to do.

Separation

My BD really isn’t shit and as of this Sunday will make two weeks since we’ve been separated. My home is finally at peace but at times it definitely feels weird and me and baby girl just have to get readjusted without him in the house. I feel stupid to even miss him but do I even miss him as a partner or just the extra helping hand in the house. Either way this separation needed to happen I was unhappy and he’ll never admit it but his actions showed, you know when a man don’t want you no more. I’m just ready to get out of this “what could I have done differently stage” and stop blaming myself. I just don’t know where to start tbh. Any advice would be useful to get me out this funk. Thank you guys!

Aitah?

My sons dad and I got everything to make dinner so I made dinner. Homemade hamburger helper. Well I cooked the rice separately from the meat and I was gonna combine everything and add cheese, milk. Well he got all upset for about 10 mins threw a tantrum being mean then he left to go to the store to get ingredients to cook himself. He says I watched him do it all the time but really I wanted to make it this way for whatever reason. I feel kinda bad about it