My husband works so much

He works at 4 am but has to get up at 3am he gets home at 7 and then plays on his phone in our room until he goes to bed at 8 I would be EXHAUSTED if I had his schedule I don’t know how he does it but I’ve been busting my ass too and I’m so tired 😩 I get absolutely no breaks what do I even do? I feel so guilty for saying I’m tired? Uhggg anyone have advice?

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Tell me this isn't a normal convo between hubby and wife..

Please read before voting cause I'm mega pissed off!! We were having a convwrsation about ticktock which lead to his favourite person (a woman with an Of account & 2 kids under 30 apparently)

Me: well she's young she can eat what she likes and burn it off. When you hit 30, game over (from experience)
Him: not everyone restricts themselves like you
Me: I just don't eat that much
Him: well shes had two kids and still looking fine.. *smirk*
Me: 😒
Him: truth..
Me: wtf!! You can't say stuff like that with that smirk and not expect me to kick off..
Him: you're over reacting again..
Me: any woman would be annoyed..

And so the conversation turned into an argument about him being wrong and said he prefers younger looking women than his 34yr old wife who is a size 6 UK BTW

Are men just stupid or what?? When doesn't he realise that it's not okay to talk like this to people when he's obsessed with ticktock??

Can partners actually change??

I have been begging my partner to take me out, Make more effort and be present. He keeps promising but no change I’m sat crying and begging him he says he feels bad but if he felt that bad surely he’ll do something about it. I’ve said I just wanna feel like me all I’m known as since having my daughter is mama and I’m tired of it I’m not noticed for anything I do but he picks up one thing and he wants to be praised I’ve had to sit and name everything I do so he gives me a second and listens. Yet still nothing changes. I’m so exhausted I’m in the house 24/7 with our daughter while he’s in work till 11 at night then will throw on me he’s going for a drink while our baby is still up and fussy then when I shout when I get angry or frustrated I’ll always be the bad guy cause he talks to me in such a patronising way that he things he’s the one who’s done nothing and I’m just crazy I feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m constantly planning everything helping with his family’s special occasions and mine while I get crumbs! Am I over reacting?

Disneyland!

So, I just bought tickets, and reserved a hotel, for a Disneyland trip, fo4 my daughter's 7th birthday in October. I want to keep it a surprise as long as possible and maybe drop little hints before the trip. What do you think is a good way to do it?

Struggling with newborn and toddler

Some days are good and I feel like we're on top of things but then there's days like today when I just want to pull my hair out!

My baby is 2 weeks old, my toddler is nearly 3. Honestly I feel like I need to be in like 5 places at once all the time. My husband is amazing and we're working great as a team but even still it feels so overwhelming.

My toddler needs help with most things, and he always wants me. If his dad tries to help him then he just starts crying and tantruming. He'll accidentally wake the baby up and she'll start crying and my husband and I will often just find ourselves looking at each other, both holding a screaming child, like what on Earth have we got ourselves into.

Baby's sleep is obviously all over the place, and neither of us can get any time to catch up and nap because one of us always has to be with our toddler, and he's so demanding at tye kinute. Constantly wants snacks, cannot play independently, constantly wants something put on the tele, or a new toy set up, a book read 100x, of he'll want to go out the back garden, or for a walk or to the park. It is just relentless. Adding a newborn to the mix who is sleeping in short bursts, cluster feeding, impossible to burp, its just so stressful.

And I can't even get time to wind down in the evening once toddler is asleep because I feel like I NEED to sleep as soon as newborn goes down to bed too or it's a waste of sleep.

My husband and I took our newborn in shifts at night for the first week and it meant we both got a good stretch of uninterrupted sleep and we're debating doing that again, but it just means we don't get to relax together at all and it's quite overwhelming.

Stuck in the house

Has anyone else struggled to get out the house. I have no motivation to go out and I feel so sorry for my daughter. My partner is always working I struggle with anxiety people keep telling me to just do it but I am so worried something will happen to my baby if I don’t go with someone else to the point I just stay in. My non parent friends drifted away from me, my partner seems to always be busy. I feel lonely I ask for him to take me out to get me out the house and he promises but never does. I know it’s not his responsibility it’s mine too but I just need help from him. I’ve tried baby groups but never end up even getting to the door.

Mealtime Difficulties

My 11 months old boy is generally a calm and easygoing baby, but he is a different person when it comes to mealtime. The cranky moment starts when he is placed on the high chair where he will twist and turn (I think its the safety strap which locks him in one position). He will resist and eat, resist and eat, and mealtime can goes up to an hour. Since we think high chair is the problem, we now feed him in other room on a portable chair. The crankiness and screaming reduced significantly but he is still be very distracted and want to get out of the chair (he is strapped in here as well). Mealtime still takes almost a hour...
Fyi, I personally feed my boy and have not really gone into BLW because the gagging really gets to me....

Would love to hear from your experiences and/or any success stories :)