Useless father & in laws

I’ve been in a relationship for 7 years, 7 years of hell. Me and my partner have a daughter together she is 2 years old and since the day she was born I’ve done everything myself, her father is way too interested in gambling, pubs & clubbing, sometimes he goes out for 12 hours straight. He goes to work and comes back and doesn’t do anything, every day is the same, I feed our child, bath her, play with her, 24 hours a day she’s by my side and he does f*ck all, always excuses saying he’s tired, for 2 years I’ve never ever had a single break, he is a useless father, pays no attention to her whatsoever and walks all over me, he thinks going out for 12 hours at a time is acceptable, he allows himself to go out but if I mention that I’m going out he puts his guards up and becomes controlling. He is a complete narcissist. Every week we’re arguing over his actions and I’ve had so many conversations with him to be a dad. Also, I’ve had 7 years of hell from his family, constant drama, tension & stress, always wanting to cause problems in our relationship, they even went as low as wishing me a miscarriage and said I was too big to carry a healthy pregnancy. They don’t bother with our daughter either, they can’t spare 10 minutes of their time to see her but blame me that they have no bond with her. I’m utterly fed up with everything, I feel so stuck. If I end things my daughter will have to go to there’s but she doesn’t know them and not to mention my partners brother does drugs too so I can’t trust any of them and he’s useless so there’s no way he could care for her properly. But if I stay I’m gonna have a lifetime of unhappiness, feeling worthless, being walked all over, the only reason I’m with him now is to protect my daughter from having to go to that family. I just really don’t know what to do.

in our community

Tell me this isn't a normal convo between hubby and wife..

Please read before voting cause I'm mega pissed off!! We were having a convwrsation about ticktock which lead to his favourite person (a woman with an Of account & 2 kids under 30 apparently)

Me: well she's young she can eat what she likes and burn it off. When you hit 30, game over (from experience)
Him: not everyone restricts themselves like you
Me: I just don't eat that much
Him: well shes had two kids and still looking fine.. *smirk*
Me: 😒
Him: truth..
Me: wtf!! You can't say stuff like that with that smirk and not expect me to kick off..
Him: you're over reacting again..
Me: any woman would be annoyed..

And so the conversation turned into an argument about him being wrong and said he prefers younger looking women than his 34yr old wife who is a size 6 UK BTW

Are men just stupid or what?? When doesn't he realise that it's not okay to talk like this to people when he's obsessed with ticktock??

Again something I never thought my daughter would like

I gave her one because she kept staring at me eating. She's had 5 since. She's 10.5 months. My 3 yo refused to even eat the rice because it touched a chip.

Husband is a jerk

Tell me if this is ridiculous.

We took our son to the park this morning because I wanted to get out of the house. My husband is always starting at his computer, he woke up late (it’s a Saturday), I made breakfast, got my son up, changed his diaper, cleaned the kitchen.

We made plans with my sister in law to meet up an hour away to get our kids together. After we get home from the park, we have 25 minutes until we need to leave. I’m packing snacks, feeding our toddler, trying to get everything ready to go while my husband sits on his computer and makes himself a smoothie. I have to tell him to let his dog out and to pack the diaper bag. Mind you, I told him I needed to get my makeup on and pack up my lunch.

He doesn’t care he goes to the bathroom and gets himself ready.

I’m pissed. I’m tired of delegating and mothering. I said we just wouldn’t go. And he says he’s just going to go without me even though I’m the one who wants to get out and see people, packs things up and gets everyone ready.

Am I the asshole or is he?

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My little boy started weaning today, he currently has 4 8ozish bottles a day. 8-9 am, 11 am - 12 pm, 3-4 pm then last bottle around 7-8 pm then sleeps through the night.
How and where would I put these purées in? Is it time to start extending time between the bottles and add purées in between? Any advice is welcomed x