Am I being selfish?

Yesterday my mother in law suggested a family trip next year to centre parcs with our little one and wanted to book straight away, we've said no due to only having one wage and wanting our first holiday to be just us three

(She then asked if she could just take him after us mentioning money)

She just seems to be so pushy since having my little one, I get it's her first grandchild but some of the comments are coming between me and my partner and it's not fair!

The first instance was when I was 1 week postpartum constantly asking us to go over for tea, then once I caved and went over ( I shouldn't have at the time cause the driving caused me pain as it's a 20min drive) it's now when can he stay or when can she have him alone but it's constant, however, she's took it upon herself to get a cot and has decorated a room for him which is lovely don't get my wrong but me and my partner just feel as though we're being pressured by her

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Your partner needs to set boundaries. Your baby. Your rules. My mum looks after my little boy a few times a week while I work but I wouldn’t want him going away without me or my husband and she wouldn’t expect to take him either

Bottom line. He's YOUR baby, you make the decisions, nothing else matters, dont feel guilty for setting boundaries. My ex MIL is exactly the same, I know it makes you feel bad or like you're starting unnecessary drama, but honestly, protect your peace, protect your family. You know what's right, and no one should make you feel any negative way about it. The fact that youve come here to ask for advice says it all, shes doing too much.

I think it’s really nice she’s wants a close relationship with her grandchild and wants to make such an effort. I understand if you feel she’s overstepping though, but I’d try to just reframe it as a positive and then have a word with her about specialness of certain things like first holidays and things like that, I’m sure she’ll understand, she sounds alright.

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