To be a SAHM or not to be? Your experience needed!
My Husband and I talked in depth about me returning to work and originally agreed for me to go down to part time, and fully remote. It's been very busy, yet do-able in my books. Kinda like hustling to get the best of both worlds ya know?
On the weekend my Husband asked me if I was still open to be a SAHM. I don't have an immediate answer for him and asked him to give me till the end of the month. Obviously yes being with my Son all day is a dream and has so many benefits for his development. I'm also being greedy and thinking of my career. I would have to put my license on suspension, and it can only be on suspension for max 4 years and then I would lose it. The tricky part is my Husband was honest about our finances and that even with me working PT we can't afford daycare, and he's hoping I might consider being a SAHM till the LO goes to Kindergarten at age 5. However with my license I would either need to work for a year now, or later, to not lose it š
(we will be discussing this more in depth!).
Currently while I work (3hrs daily), my Husband is juggling both work and our LO. With the nature of my job I can't have him with me during work hours even at home. When I'm not working I'm full time mom mode!
To further complicate things we haven't decided if we want to try for a second two years from now due to multiple previous miscarriages and also postpartum infection/complications on my end.
*Update #1 - If I complete the yearly CEs and pay the yearly renewal fee I can keep my license even if I'm not working!
What is your personal experience with either being a SAHM, or a working mom? Pros/cons?
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Would it be hard to get your license back?
Iāve never had the experience of being a working mom. (Iām planning to start a business, though, if that counts for anything.) We pay for daycare/preschool so that I can use it when Iām overwhelmed. (Iāve withdrawn them, but the paperwork hasnāt been processed yet, so weāre still paying.)
We plan to start baby number three next year or two, maybe even three. (Because of the possibility of us having to split and live in two different households next year.) We havenāt decided if weāll move to the coast with family later this year or stay here. His boss has told him he wants to sell him the business in two years so he (the current boss) can retire. It can be run pretty virtually and would only require minor trips throughout the year. But it would also be nice to live near family. So š¤·š½āāļø.
My focus right now is truly workout, decluttering, and getting my license this yr (so also got to work on my anxiety)
Oh and we adopted a dog recently. Heās absolutely adorable.
I personally recommend that you discuss what finances and household chores responsibilities and taking care of som will look like. Alot of menā¦ become power stricken and also see care for the child and home solely on you. Id watch videos on youtube to get a teality of good and bad sahm ups and downs. I personally think every stahm should keep her licenses and skills current. U should also discuss life insurance, disability insurance if hubby was unable to work, and how money decisions will be handled. I would recommend u just try part time because being a sahm has many layers to make it work. And one of those layers is supportive and understanding partner regarding finances and home life, your personal advancement and identity, and being with baby full time.
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