I need support… 😭

I’m running on empty. I’ve been a SAHM for 41/2 years straight now. I have a 6 year old, 2 year old and a 1 year old.

I’m absolutely exhausted.

My older two fight constantly, even though they’re having fun together half the time, it only lasts so long though. My 1 year old is clingy. My husband works 10-12 hour days.

I feel like I get nothing done most of the time and then panic and stay up too late catching up.

I’m over tired, over weight, unhappy and feel like a bad mom because I’m over everything.

I’ve resorted to yelling at my children throughout the day which I feel bad about but I’m literally on my last straw and even that is half broken. My oldest is undiagnosed but I’m pretty sure has autism or adhd(I’m diagnosed).

My sex drive is non existent these days, I don’t want anyone to touch me anymore, I have very few friends and honestly just feel like crying.

I really need someone to validate my feelings and tell me that this season is not going to last forever. That everything will be okay. And any tips on making siblings get along would be great too!

Thank you for listening to my Ted talk 😅😭🥹

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It won’t last forever it’s OK to be a mom. It’s OK to be a woman. It’s OK to be upset or be depressed angry tired, unheard, overly active. It’s OK. why because at the end of the day you are human it’s fine to have a rough moment as long as you know that moment isn’t forever.

Girl get up and out that funk message me I do house cleanings and I know how to do hair we can do a mommy reset and I workout if u have ft we can do workouts over the phone I'm in southfield so if ur close we can do workouts I could come to you hit me up I get it

You can message me. Im a sahm too well can virtual chat if you'd like.

I’m sorry girl, I don’t really have advice but you’re not alone. Being a stay at home mom can be so lonely and overwhelming. You’re doing the best you can right now. I think having a day to yourself once a week is so important. I’m going through it too and I started taking walks everyday and list all the things I’m grateful for every morning. You just need a break even if it’s for an hour. I’m crying with you girl! We will get through this chapter in our life.

Hey girl I’m pretty much in the same boat! I have a 5 and 3.5 year olds and a ten month old so not far off your timeline. I feel pretty well the same about a lot and some days just get the better of me and I feel like I can’t catch up. Few things that help me reset…

1. Forget the mess for one or even two days and prioritize sleep! Do a quick tidy of the kitchen and leave the rest for then next day cuz the cleaning never ens but you can’t really make up for lost sleep. ( my littles wake up religiously at 630/7 no matter what time they go to bed so if I stay up too late I’m wrecked the next day and I’m irritable and short tempered and have terrible brain fog so even if I want to do fun things I forget about it 🫠
2. SLOW DOWN DURING THE DAY try to take literally five minutes to really look at each child to just see them and sit on the floor and play and be present with them. The mess can wait your hair and makeup can wait but these moments are precious and even a few can help you reconct

Hey beauty u are not alone. Staying at home is alot especially for the age groups u have. My biggest advice i can give is do 1 load of laundry a day so it doesnt pile up, buy paper plates just for now, spend time with your kids so they can feel like everyone belongs and take a moment for u at bed time. Its hard to get a routine going it takes 45 days to make a routine and 9 days to break one. It does get easier but u do have to prioritize things differently. My husband works 14-16hr shifts. Ive got a 10yr old 3yr old and 4 dogs its alot. I also homeschool so i have had to learn how to prioritize things. Its going to be ok one day at a time.

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Potty training

My almost 3yr woke up with a full nappy as normal and then I changed him, 2 hours went by and his nappy was dry. So I asked if he wanted to go on his potty and he did a big wee.. put some little underwear on him for the first time and I ask 3/4 times an hour if he needs wee or poo and he sits and on potty and goes for a wee. From 10:30 this morning till 3 now, no accidents so far 🤞.
Is this now the time to do ‘ a week intensive potty training’? Any advise much appreciated
Thanks

do you and your SO connect (emotionally or physically) regularly?

I crave intimacy, but my partner comes home very tired. He plays a little with our baby before his bath, then eats, showers and then he plays on his phone, or watch reels. I told him yesterday that the time he spends on his phone we could do something together, ANYTHING, since we don't have couple time, only parent. He seemed annoyed and told me literally "that's life, we can't connect everyday". I guess he does have a point, but I feel so not appreciated and loved :(
Just wanted to know if I'm alone in this

Need advice

Me and my man live together. We have a system that works for us. He cooks and does the food shopping. We alternate dropping and picking the kids up. I do most of the cleaning but he cleans the bathroom stove and refrigerator. I make sure the dishes are washed and the clothes are cleaned daily. But this man will come home and make a bigger mess. When he cooks he wont clean up after himself. Examples yesterday I wasn't home. He was here all day by himself tell me why my house looks like a pig pens and when I say something he wants to get upset. If this was his parents house he would make sure him & who ever else was there was cleaning so why not do it where he actually lays his head. I cant stand men sometimes.

Sorry if my rant is all over the place. I just needed to space to let it out.

He pisses me off

Honestly, I’m still with my baby daddy, we’re together and we live together. But this morning he got pissed off cause our son wouldn’t stay still while he tried changing him and I told him to let me do it. Then he gets mad saying “let me fucking do it” so I said fine do it then. He told me to change him and he stormed out the room slamming the bedroom door making our son cry, getting into his car and sped off. I’m really tired of his shit tbh, I’m so fucking done

Independent play

My little girl is 23 months today and she still won’t play independently… is this normal?

If we’re in the same room as her, there’s absolutely no chance we’ll be able to just sit and watch her play or sit back and have a minutes peace, it’s play time for all of us at all times… and I literally mean every single time. I don’t think I’ve ever been in the same room as her and not been involved in the playing. It’s like she physically can’t play on her own. Is this right for her age?

I always hear mums talking about watching their kids muttering to themselves in their own imaginary world and just admiring them playing independently, but we’ve never experienced that and I feel like we should have got to that point by now.

Feel a bit like I’m going mad

Just feeling very overwhelmed now that I’m also trying to sleep train him day and night.. just feels like a full time job where I get literally 0 time to myself to do anything ever … don’t even end up eating lunch till like 4 and it’s always rushed and mostly breast feeding at same time, not relaxed on me own, and whenever he does fall asleep it might be 10 mins it might be an hour on a good day - I just run around rushing trying to do the dishwasher, go into town to buy stuff for lunch or dinner, do washing up, do baby’s or my laundry, tidy the place as constantly messy, my own personal to do lists never have time to get done and I just wonder when this sacrifice of my own time will end. I also am dying to do some sort of good exercise like a gym class or something but when the hell can I go!