do you and your SO connect (emotionally or physically) regularly?

I crave intimacy, but my partner comes home very tired. He plays a little with our baby before his bath, then eats, showers and then he plays on his phone, or watch reels. I told him yesterday that the time he spends on his phone we could do something together, ANYTHING, since we don't have couple time, only parent. He seemed annoyed and told me literally "that's life, we can't connect everyday". I guess he does have a point, but I feel so not appreciated and loved :(
Just wanted to know if I'm alone in this

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My husband and I used to have a lot of problems so we’ve made a rule that we spend at least 30 minutes a day together no matter what. Sometimes we watch tv or a movie, sometimes we do work together, sometimes we just talk, and other times we find something new to try out together. Sometimes we talk a bit and then go do our separate things and spend extra time on other days. Sometimes we get tired and cut it a bit short but we make up for that lost time the next day

We like to go on a walk together each day. We have a dog, so it’s doing a ‘chore’ but spending time together. We’ve had many great chats on our walks over the years, and since our baby arrived it’s been a good way to spend time catching up on our days and having some down time.

My hubby and I pick something to listen to together when we game or we spend time in the living room cuddling with a movie or while he games. Other days it’s just cuddling in bed until I fall asleep watching reels

We don’t always connect. Sometimes I’m going through something and I feel distant. Sometimes he’s going through something and he’s distant. But we reach out when we’re ready.

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