You're SOO lucky!

Yeah my ex literally didn't do anything behind closed doors, if out in public or we had visitors he liked to paint the picture of being the perfect dad. I showed someone a photo of him pushing the pram and literally the praise and shit he got was insane, I was the one that packed everything, fed bubs, got her dressed and ready and drove to where we were going yet I was lucky he was so hands on 🤣

So my ex husband changed our girls nappies for the 5 hours he had them with his mum and I heard about it for 3 weeks 😅 in the end I did bite and said oh great he’s doing bare minimum of being a parent. This was 4 months ago and hasn’t had them without me again 😅

My partner does an amazing job of being a dad. I only dont LOVE hearing im lucky because its not luck I just didn't have children with a lazy idiot I chose a smart caring man

I hate this too. My partner is a SAHD and I work full time. I get told I’m lucky all the time because he stays at home to raise our son. Yes he’s AMAZING and I’m so appreciative but when i was the one at home no one told him he was lucky because I was raising out son? Such a double standard x

I mean should it be normalized…absolutely. But the harsh reality is that it is nottttt even average …. Its literally an A+ amongst men🤣😩😭

The rageeeeeee that goes through me, to the point it annoys my partner too!! I always give some sarky answer “you should have higher standards for men if you find this impressive” and my fave like is “an amazing dad is an average mum”

Yep. Plus no one ever says ‘you’re such a good mum’ in the same way.

My take: the standards for men are WAY too low. They get praised for changing a diaper, holding the kid, talking to them without yelling or holding in a store like the best dad ever, I feel because of the huge ratio of men that get a woman pregnant then get scared and disappear. That's the standard for men, anything more youre amazing as society sees. Now I will say, I am incredibly lucky my husband IS a fantastic dad. He puts down our oldest for bed every night and naps on weekends, showers both kids every night, cooks us dinner most nights, sings songs and plays guitar/banjo/etc for us and encourages the kids to get in on the music letting them play his drums and encourages their singing (3 and 1yr olds) drives us everywhere, holds 3yr Olds hand in the stores (we both hold his) and he now has 1yro in the carrier for me at stores because now I'm pregnant and shouldn't. He does his hardest to relearn how he was raised to be kinder to his kids and learning not to raise his voice in anger and im super proud..

I tell my kids and everyone else how amazing he is and how lucky I am and I thank our Lord regularly. But I do 100% realize this is an exception in the reality of most dads and not the norm and that is a sad state that really needs to change. Do I do more still? Yes absolutely. Im SAHM while he works I raise the kids, do the learning, breakfast, lunch and any snacks for kids and I, clean the house all while with them while being pregnant staying up late to make sure its clean enough for tomorrow to do it again. This is the norm for moms and most i realize do more than that with husbands that lack, or that and they work full time or single and work yet do all the home work too. Men just aren't expected to do much other than work to pay for everything and anything else you get an award. Husband gets happiest looks from women when he takes out the kids to the store without me(that makes me happy and proud for him) my point is men should generally be at a higher standard. Let's teach our sons to be more!