Why daddy why !!!!
I have a 3-month-old baby, and I’m managing everything on my own—cleaning, cooking, laundry, and breastfeeding day and night. I barely even get time to comb my hair.
I can handle the work, but what hurts is what I’m not getting in return—no love, no hugs, no affection, no appreciation, no understanding.
He talks to the baby, but not to me. I’ve started staying quiet because whenever I try to say something, it turns into shouting, and I don’t want that environment for my baby.
Sometimes it feels like I’m completely invisible. People often say women become “too strong” or “too masculine,” but no one sees what pushes them to that point.
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That’s where the saying seen not heard comes from, consider getting a housekeeper instead of towing all the weight by yourself.
Not spending your days cleaning with no end really does something for your mental and body.
you’re doing everything for the baby and getting nothing back, and that’s not something you should just quietly accept. trying to keep the peace, but staying silent is only letting this become the normal. You don’t have to argue or create tension, but you do need to start speaking up and setting boundaries. If you keep carrying everything on your own without saying anything, he’s going to keep letting you. Be calm, be firm. you matter just as much as the baby does, and your needs shouldn’t keep coming last.
What is masculine about raising a child alone?
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