How do people go out with fussy baby?

My LO (my second, premature, 9 weeks) is an unhappy crying baby. When he's awake he's either eating, crying or fussing. There are some moments of happy smiles, looking around etc but mostly it's him being upset.

I just end up staying in while he contact naps. My first wasn't like this. I'm just scared of being judged plus I feel guilty that I bottle feed even though I did with my daughter, because he screams so much and looks like he hates me.

But I also need to get out and want to go to classes.

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Too young for nursery, guilty mum :(

Hey, im just looking for some advice or anyone who has been in this situation and what they may do differently.

I have a nearly 2yr old and a 3month baby. 2yr old is in nursery 3 days per week as this what i worked, im not returning to work until another 8months. 2yr old in nursery 3 days works well and then when hes not in nursery I make sure my time with him is mostly focused on him and we both enjoy this.

Currently im considering baby starting nursery 1 day per week. I feel really crap for feeling like this and that I shouldn't feel like this. Im finding if hard not having even a few hours to myself , stop start housework and falling behind with things, i also do some Bookkeeping for my partner, I guess I find the balance difficult. I then feel guilty doing housestuff around him and like im ignoring him.

Im thinking if I had 1 day per week just for me, I can do 1thing nice for myself, blitz the house and food prep for the week and I will be less stressed and overwhelmed...

Im worried if I will regret sending him nursery 1day per week so young, I dont know once the time has gone its gone but I know nursery is good and my older son enjoys it there and he learns so much... can anyone share their views or what they did in similar situations?

I also wouldnt be questioning this as much if a family member wanted him for 1 day per week but thats not an option.
Thanks 😊

For those who’s in law live 1 hr away

How often do you visit your in laws?

Did your relationship suffer first year of postpartum?

I’m interested to know ! Me and my partners relationship was so fragile the first 8 months. I was raging, I felt my workload was endless, I lost all my alone time and the sleepless nights 😩

My partner felt burned out from work pressure and financial responsibilities. I always complained and made him feel like he couldn’t do anything right. ( I was always saying don’t do that and don’t do it like this with baby . I’m sure others can relate .) and it took a few months for my partner to connect with our baby.

I feel like now at 9 months we are slowly getting closer again. My partner had a week of work and spend the days with us and realised how much work I do. Since then he has started to help out more. Which has changed my life .

I have been watching some programs about new parents lately and seem like most people go through this.

Please answer the options or comment and share your experience. 🫶

8.5 months & Eating

Hey!
In need of some advice or just general reassurance that this is normal.

Our daughter is 8.5 months now, we started weaning at 6 months. We’ve had a couple points where she’s been interested in eating. We do a mixture of baby led weaning & purées.
At the moment, most of the time she’s uninterested in eating. We are trying breakfast & dinner. She never eats all the food & most of the time will only try a couple spoonfuls.
Is this normal? You see all these babies online devouring a whole bowl of porridge or big dinner, and it’s all so confusing😫😂
Did anyone’s little one do this but start eating more over the next few months?
She’s definitely more of a fan of baby-led style but I can’t say she actually eats much of it when feeding herself.
Thanks in advance☺️

The best stain remover?!

What’s the best stain remover to use on clothes? We have been using the YassClean where you scrub & then soak and that’s been working really well for us but not ideal ordering it off tik tok every time (and it’s currently out of stock and I’ve ran out!!)… I’d prefer something more easily accessible and that won’t break the bank? (UK BASED)

What would you do?

Background: So myself and my partner have been together for 8yrs now. And sex life is kindof average I would say, I mean there is no foreplay and stuff. I'm used to it by now. Our biggest problem is we both want to do something but neither one of us wants to ignite. For me I just don't feel loved by him most times because he hasn't planned a date for us in years and we barely spend time together. He works and I'm a SAHM of 2 littles. So I feel cheap when I'm always the one doing oral to get things going when he hasn't really touched me in a long time.

Now the day before I made a deal with him that Mon/Wed/Fri will be his days to ignite and spoil me, then Tue/Thur/Sat will be my turn to ignite. Sundays it will be random. He agreed and because it was Sunday I decided I'll take the initiative and ignite stuff.

Now last night was supposed to be his turn to ignite, but we laid next to each other and he did nothing, he made an excuse that he thought today was my day. So I was like no it's your day but if you don't want to then I'm going to bed, I turned around and started doomscrolling, he went to smoke outside. Then when he came in again he asked me to lay next to him and after 15mins he started touching me. And I don't know, I felt nothing. Because this whole thing felt forced like I had to force him. That just puts me off. So I told him I dont really want to do anything because it feels like I forced him. He sighed and then turned around. No talking, no denying no trying. So I turned around and slept.

Was my actions unnecessary?