For those who’s in law live 1 hr away

How often do you visit your in laws?

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Mine are 10 mins away and they only want to see us once a month (works for us) there’s not a good relationship between us and them.

we try and do at least 1 weekend a month

They usually come down to us, about once a month. They still work, so try and make plans when we can and make plans to stay there for the weekend when we're all available.

Mine are 5 mins away and they never bother with us! We can't go to their house as they have dogs that are awful, and their response is just 'well it's their home' when we say we don't feel comfortable there because of them, so we just don't go. My parents are an hour away and I see them at least twice a month.

I refuse to visit now if they 'want' to see our daughter they have to come to us..they have another granddaughter in her 20s that lives 15 mins from us,they visit her and her son every few week's but don't come to see our daughter..my mil even told us her other granddaughter said "now the babys born will you see less of our son" while she was stood in her house!!

We go to them maybe 2/3 times a year usually same time as her other son so she has them both in the house at the same time (1 at Christmas, 1 usually around June/July). She then comes to us probably every other month - she does want to come more but works, but is retiring this year so I think she will hopefully come to us once a month

With them living an hour away when we go to them it becomes a full day out almost so it isn't something we can fit in regularly especially now that our child has hobbies on weekends!

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Nursery selection

Hi all!
My 3 year old will start his nursery in Sept this year. I am choosing between 3 nurseries and have registered with all of them. They all will have home visits. I have a few questions under this topic for anyone with more experience in this.

1. What do you ask in these home visits and when I visit for their Stay and Learn sessions?
2. How do I choose which nursery is best for my boy?
3. How do I politely unregister with the nursery I am not wanting by the end of it all?

Second child?? Hubby and I are on the fence.

Should we have another baby? Please read.

Hubby and I are constantly off and on the fence about having second child. My first pregnancy was hard!! Like worst possible things imaginable happened and I didn't enjoy it one bit!

I became the strict parent I really didn't want to be, I had to because my son is wild! He reached every milestone when he decided he was ready. No matter how hard we tried, he has the worst tantrums and I'm really struggling to understand how we managed to raise a child who refuses to follow even the simplest of instructions. He's going to school this time and I honestly thought he would be ready. But he really isn't!

I hate myself for being a strict parent. If I wasn't strict, he would just run a riot. He would eat things off the floor. Break every toy he owns and so on.

I want another child because I know I can be a better parent and I want to experience that amazing family bond that I see my sister have with her (extremely well behaved) children. I know there isn't a guarantee that I'll get this.

I also want to experience a normal pregnancy because mine was anything but normal!

I also want to give my child a sibling because despite him going through a defiant phase atm. I know he will be an amazing big brother, he is incredibly kind and loving when he wants to be.

Most days we agree to have another once he's settled in school then other days, we are "one and done" but it makes me incredibly sad to think about not having another child. It literally breaks my heart to think that this was it, our one and only chance at that loving family I've always dreamed of.

As I said we will wait until he is settled in school to try again but is all of this normal or good reasons to have another?

Help me understand my frustration 🤣

Why is it when we ask men to do something (granted, not all men) they often tend to say they're 'coming' or they'll do it in a minute or something, and this just seems to piss me off 🤣 like, I'm not your mum to be asking you to do something right away, but still it annoys me that you can't just do the thing I asked, when I asked, so we can move on with life 🤣

Is it just me?

Bf’s kid

My boyfriend has a 4 year old and she is very rude and disrespectful and also very demanding. Every time I get on to her for the way she talks to people and the way she treats people he tries to brush it off like she does nothing wrong.
She makes him do everything for her like putting her shoes away or carrying her because she doesn’t want to walk she also hits him and tells him she’s not going to listen to what he says and he does nothing
I tried confronting him about it and he tried to say I sounded jealous and I told him that I find it ridiculous that he lets her run him like he’s not a grown man and her father.
He also told me I would have to just get over it
But I really want to tell him that if he doesn’t correct her behavior then I don’t want her around because I don’t want my daughter to grow up thinking it’s ok to disrespect people and be mean to people when they don’t do what she wants.
It’s to the point where I don’t even like when she touches my baby
And when I send him pictures he only saves the ones of his daughter to his camera roll but not the ones of the baby it’s like she doesn’t exist when his daughter is around