8.5 months & Eating

Hey!
In need of some advice or just general reassurance that this is normal.

Our daughter is 8.5 months now, we started weaning at 6 months. We’ve had a couple points where she’s been interested in eating. We do a mixture of baby led weaning & purées.
At the moment, most of the time she’s uninterested in eating. We are trying breakfast & dinner. She never eats all the food & most of the time will only try a couple spoonfuls.
Is this normal? You see all these babies online devouring a whole bowl of porridge or big dinner, and it’s all so confusing😫😂
Did anyone’s little one do this but start eating more over the next few months?
She’s definitely more of a fan of baby-led style but I can’t say she actually eats much of it when feeding herself.
Thanks in advance☺️

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Second child?? Hubby and I are on the fence.

Should we have another baby? Please read.

Hubby and I are constantly off and on the fence about having second child. My first pregnancy was hard!! Like worst possible things imaginable happened and I didn't enjoy it one bit!

I became the strict parent I really didn't want to be, I had to because my son is wild! He reached every milestone when he decided he was ready. No matter how hard we tried, he has the worst tantrums and I'm really struggling to understand how we managed to raise a child who refuses to follow even the simplest of instructions. He's going to school this time and I honestly thought he would be ready. But he really isn't!

I hate myself for being a strict parent. If I wasn't strict, he would just run a riot. He would eat things off the floor. Break every toy he owns and so on.

I want another child because I know I can be a better parent and I want to experience that amazing family bond that I see my sister have with her (extremely well behaved) children. I know there isn't a guarantee that I'll get this.

I also want to experience a normal pregnancy because mine was anything but normal!

I also want to give my child a sibling because despite him going through a defiant phase atm. I know he will be an amazing big brother, he is incredibly kind and loving when he wants to be.

Most days we agree to have another once he's settled in school then other days, we are "one and done" but it makes me incredibly sad to think about not having another child. It literally breaks my heart to think that this was it, our one and only chance at that loving family I've always dreamed of.

As I said we will wait until he is settled in school to try again but is all of this normal or good reasons to have another?

Bf’s kid

My boyfriend has a 4 year old and she is very rude and disrespectful and also very demanding. Every time I get on to her for the way she talks to people and the way she treats people he tries to brush it off like she does nothing wrong.
She makes him do everything for her like putting her shoes away or carrying her because she doesn’t want to walk she also hits him and tells him she’s not going to listen to what he says and he does nothing
I tried confronting him about it and he tried to say I sounded jealous and I told him that I find it ridiculous that he lets her run him like he’s not a grown man and her father.
He also told me I would have to just get over it
But I really want to tell him that if he doesn’t correct her behavior then I don’t want her around because I don’t want my daughter to grow up thinking it’s ok to disrespect people and be mean to people when they don’t do what she wants.
It’s to the point where I don’t even like when she touches my baby
And when I send him pictures he only saves the ones of his daughter to his camera roll but not the ones of the baby it’s like she doesn’t exist when his daughter is around

For those who’s in law live 1 hr away

How often do you visit your in laws?

Help solve dilemma. Boyfriend is a manager (going on a year) he’s been with the company going on 6 years. He saw that the guy under him (he used to do the same job) makes $11 more a hour than him, but he’s been with the company for 14yrs

Do you think my boyfriend is getting underpaid? Or this seems reasonable?… what would you do or tell him?

What would you do?

Background: So myself and my partner have been together for 8yrs now. And sex life is kindof average I would say, I mean there is no foreplay and stuff. I'm used to it by now. Our biggest problem is we both want to do something but neither one of us wants to ignite. For me I just don't feel loved by him most times because he hasn't planned a date for us in years and we barely spend time together. He works and I'm a SAHM of 2 littles. So I feel cheap when I'm always the one doing oral to get things going when he hasn't really touched me in a long time.

Now the day before I made a deal with him that Mon/Wed/Fri will be his days to ignite and spoil me, then Tue/Thur/Sat will be my turn to ignite. Sundays it will be random. He agreed and because it was Sunday I decided I'll take the initiative and ignite stuff.

Now last night was supposed to be his turn to ignite, but we laid next to each other and he did nothing, he made an excuse that he thought today was my day. So I was like no it's your day but if you don't want to then I'm going to bed, I turned around and started doomscrolling, he went to smoke outside. Then when he came in again he asked me to lay next to him and after 15mins he started touching me. And I don't know, I felt nothing. Because this whole thing felt forced like I had to force him. That just puts me off. So I told him I dont really want to do anything because it feels like I forced him. He sighed and then turned around. No talking, no denying no trying. So I turned around and slept.

Was my actions unnecessary?

Did your relationship suffer first year of postpartum?

I’m interested to know ! Me and my partners relationship was so fragile the first 8 months. I was raging, I felt my workload was endless, I lost all my alone time and the sleepless nights 😩

My partner felt burned out from work pressure and financial responsibilities. I always complained and made him feel like he couldn’t do anything right. ( I was always saying don’t do that and don’t do it like this with baby . I’m sure others can relate .) and it took a few months for my partner to connect with our baby.

I feel like now at 9 months we are slowly getting closer again. My partner had a week of work and spend the days with us and realised how much work I do. Since then he has started to help out more. Which has changed my life .

I have been watching some programs about new parents lately and seem like most people go through this.

Please answer the options or comment and share your experience. 🫶