Too young for nursery, guilty mum :(

Hey, im just looking for some advice or anyone who has been in this situation and what they may do differently.

I have a nearly 2yr old and a 3month baby. 2yr old is in nursery 3 days per week as this what i worked, im not returning to work until another 8months. 2yr old in nursery 3 days works well and then when hes not in nursery I make sure my time with him is mostly focused on him and we both enjoy this.

Currently im considering baby starting nursery 1 day per week. I feel really crap for feeling like this and that I shouldn't feel like this. Im finding if hard not having even a few hours to myself , stop start housework and falling behind with things, i also do some Bookkeeping for my partner, I guess I find the balance difficult. I then feel guilty doing housestuff around him and like im ignoring him.

Im thinking if I had 1 day per week just for me, I can do 1thing nice for myself, blitz the house and food prep for the week and I will be less stressed and overwhelmed...

Im worried if I will regret sending him nursery 1day per week so young, I dont know once the time has gone its gone but I know nursery is good and my older son enjoys it there and he learns so much... can anyone share their views or what they did in similar situations?

I also wouldnt be questioning this as much if a family member wanted him for 1 day per week but thats not an option.
Thanks 😊

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My boyfriend has a 4 year old and she is very rude and disrespectful and also very demanding. Every time I get on to her for the way she talks to people and the way she treats people he tries to brush it off like she does nothing wrong.
She makes him do everything for her like putting her shoes away or carrying her because she doesn’t want to walk she also hits him and tells him she’s not going to listen to what he says and he does nothing
I tried confronting him about it and he tried to say I sounded jealous and I told him that I find it ridiculous that he lets her run him like he’s not a grown man and her father.
He also told me I would have to just get over it
But I really want to tell him that if he doesn’t correct her behavior then I don’t want her around because I don’t want my daughter to grow up thinking it’s ok to disrespect people and be mean to people when they don’t do what she wants.
It’s to the point where I don’t even like when she touches my baby
And when I send him pictures he only saves the ones of his daughter to his camera roll but not the ones of the baby it’s like she doesn’t exist when his daughter is around

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I’m interested to know ! Me and my partners relationship was so fragile the first 8 months. I was raging, I felt my workload was endless, I lost all my alone time and the sleepless nights 😩

My partner felt burned out from work pressure and financial responsibilities. I always complained and made him feel like he couldn’t do anything right. ( I was always saying don’t do that and don’t do it like this with baby . I’m sure others can relate .) and it took a few months for my partner to connect with our baby.

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I have been watching some programs about new parents lately and seem like most people go through this.

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Background: So myself and my partner have been together for 8yrs now. And sex life is kindof average I would say, I mean there is no foreplay and stuff. I'm used to it by now. Our biggest problem is we both want to do something but neither one of us wants to ignite. For me I just don't feel loved by him most times because he hasn't planned a date for us in years and we barely spend time together. He works and I'm a SAHM of 2 littles. So I feel cheap when I'm always the one doing oral to get things going when he hasn't really touched me in a long time.

Now the day before I made a deal with him that Mon/Wed/Fri will be his days to ignite and spoil me, then Tue/Thur/Sat will be my turn to ignite. Sundays it will be random. He agreed and because it was Sunday I decided I'll take the initiative and ignite stuff.

Now last night was supposed to be his turn to ignite, but we laid next to each other and he did nothing, he made an excuse that he thought today was my day. So I was like no it's your day but if you don't want to then I'm going to bed, I turned around and started doomscrolling, he went to smoke outside. Then when he came in again he asked me to lay next to him and after 15mins he started touching me. And I don't know, I felt nothing. Because this whole thing felt forced like I had to force him. That just puts me off. So I told him I dont really want to do anything because it feels like I forced him. He sighed and then turned around. No talking, no denying no trying. So I turned around and slept.

Was my actions unnecessary?

Too young for nursery, guilty mum :(

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