Mil’s comment-how to handle

It was my child’s birthday over the weekend, and I planned it all. From the handmade food signs, themed food items, themed drinks, signs, everything. While I was cutting the fruit into shapes, my MIL came over and mumbled “thats cute, I just couldn’t be bothered with the effort or wasting my time” …. like okay… I didn’t ask her to help, for her opinion, or to pay for anything so like wtf. I felt like it was a super unnecessary backhanded comment to make to the mother of her grandchildren… the others all said it was wonderful and creative, all nice things. So am I wrong for thinking this was super rude on her part? Or am I misunderstanding the situation?

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Too young for nursery, guilty mum :(

Hey, im just looking for some advice or anyone who has been in this situation and what they may do differently.

I have a nearly 2yr old and a 3month baby. 2yr old is in nursery 3 days per week as this what i worked, im not returning to work until another 8months. 2yr old in nursery 3 days works well and then when hes not in nursery I make sure my time with him is mostly focused on him and we both enjoy this.

Currently im considering baby starting nursery 1 day per week. I feel really crap for feeling like this and that I shouldn't feel like this. Im finding if hard not having even a few hours to myself , stop start housework and falling behind with things, i also do some Bookkeeping for my partner, I guess I find the balance difficult. I then feel guilty doing housestuff around him and like im ignoring him.

Im thinking if I had 1 day per week just for me, I can do 1thing nice for myself, blitz the house and food prep for the week and I will be less stressed and overwhelmed...

Im worried if I will regret sending him nursery 1day per week so young, I dont know once the time has gone its gone but I know nursery is good and my older son enjoys it there and he learns so much... can anyone share their views or what they did in similar situations?

I also wouldnt be questioning this as much if a family member wanted him for 1 day per week but thats not an option.
Thanks 😊

Ofsted reports

My daughter will be joining a childminder in September, I’ve just had a quick glance at their ofsted report and everything “needs improvement” such as engaging with children and staff hygiene (food handling and washing hands before touching foods etc).

Would this concern anyone else?

Does parenting ever feel one-sided?

Hey mamas 💛

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how, in parenting, one person can sometimes end up doing more or carrying more of the day to day and it really got me thinking.

Does it ever feel like you’re the one keeping everything running?

I ended up creating something to help couples share things a bit more and feel more supported, would love to know if this is something others would find helpful🥹

8.5 months & Eating

Hey!
In need of some advice or just general reassurance that this is normal.

Our daughter is 8.5 months now, we started weaning at 6 months. We’ve had a couple points where she’s been interested in eating. We do a mixture of baby led weaning & purées.
At the moment, most of the time she’s uninterested in eating. We are trying breakfast & dinner. She never eats all the food & most of the time will only try a couple spoonfuls.
Is this normal? You see all these babies online devouring a whole bowl of porridge or big dinner, and it’s all so confusing😫😂
Did anyone’s little one do this but start eating more over the next few months?
She’s definitely more of a fan of baby-led style but I can’t say she actually eats much of it when feeding herself.
Thanks in advance☺️

Guilt?

I'm wondering if anyone can resonate with me on this

I work in childcare 42 hrs a week and decided to go on mat leave from 30 weeks due to the physical and mental strain of that job- no one needs that in the 3rd trimester! Having only bought our house just under 2 years ago - my to do list for the nursery and generally doing bits around the house that I wanted to do before baby's arrival was like something out of a Star wars credits scene. Cut to present day - I'll be 33 weeks tomorrow and the majority of my to do list is done. My house couldn't get any more spotless and I find myself cleaning things that others probably wouldn't even think about more than once a year.

Anyway long story short - for example this morning I've run two loads of washing hoovered the whole house dusted the skirting boards done the washing up taken the rubbish out and more that I forget to mention. But even though I've done this before 10:30AM and being heavily pregnant - why the hell do I feel guilty for just resting?! Is it because my partners still at work and I'm just sitting on my backside in-between chores? It's a really odd kind of guilt as well - it's like dissatisfaction and disappointment that I'm not doing more with my time. But my god - there's literally nothing to do anymore. I've done it all 🫩🫩

Meal prep

Ladies what meals did you prepare and freeze for when baby was here? We aren’t fussy and have no dietary restrictions I know basic things but I want to still have a variety and nutrition for us as we also have a 4 year old too!

All meal time ideas like breakfast lunch and dinner and any tips for snacks I can have prepared at the ready would be amazing❤️