Does parenting ever feel one-sided?

Hey mamas 💛

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how, in parenting, one person can sometimes end up doing more or carrying more of the day to day and it really got me thinking.

Does it ever feel like you’re the one keeping everything running?

I ended up creating something to help couples share things a bit more and feel more supported, would love to know if this is something others would find helpful🥹

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Too young for nursery, guilty mum :(

Hey, im just looking for some advice or anyone who has been in this situation and what they may do differently.

I have a nearly 2yr old and a 3month baby. 2yr old is in nursery 3 days per week as this what i worked, im not returning to work until another 8months. 2yr old in nursery 3 days works well and then when hes not in nursery I make sure my time with him is mostly focused on him and we both enjoy this.

Currently im considering baby starting nursery 1 day per week. I feel really crap for feeling like this and that I shouldn't feel like this. Im finding if hard not having even a few hours to myself , stop start housework and falling behind with things, i also do some Bookkeeping for my partner, I guess I find the balance difficult. I then feel guilty doing housestuff around him and like im ignoring him.

Im thinking if I had 1 day per week just for me, I can do 1thing nice for myself, blitz the house and food prep for the week and I will be less stressed and overwhelmed...

Im worried if I will regret sending him nursery 1day per week so young, I dont know once the time has gone its gone but I know nursery is good and my older son enjoys it there and he learns so much... can anyone share their views or what they did in similar situations?

I also wouldnt be questioning this as much if a family member wanted him for 1 day per week but thats not an option.
Thanks 😊

For those who’s in law live 1 hr away

How often do you visit your in laws?

Did your relationship suffer first year of postpartum?

I’m interested to know ! Me and my partners relationship was so fragile the first 8 months. I was raging, I felt my workload was endless, I lost all my alone time and the sleepless nights 😩

My partner felt burned out from work pressure and financial responsibilities. I always complained and made him feel like he couldn’t do anything right. ( I was always saying don’t do that and don’t do it like this with baby . I’m sure others can relate .) and it took a few months for my partner to connect with our baby.

I feel like now at 9 months we are slowly getting closer again. My partner had a week of work and spend the days with us and realised how much work I do. Since then he has started to help out more. Which has changed my life .

I have been watching some programs about new parents lately and seem like most people go through this.

Please answer the options or comment and share your experience. 🫶

8.5 months & Eating

Hey!
In need of some advice or just general reassurance that this is normal.

Our daughter is 8.5 months now, we started weaning at 6 months. We’ve had a couple points where she’s been interested in eating. We do a mixture of baby led weaning & purées.
At the moment, most of the time she’s uninterested in eating. We are trying breakfast & dinner. She never eats all the food & most of the time will only try a couple spoonfuls.
Is this normal? You see all these babies online devouring a whole bowl of porridge or big dinner, and it’s all so confusing😫😂
Did anyone’s little one do this but start eating more over the next few months?
She’s definitely more of a fan of baby-led style but I can’t say she actually eats much of it when feeding herself.
Thanks in advance☺️

Ofsted reports

My daughter will be joining a childminder in September, I’ve just had a quick glance at their ofsted report and everything “needs improvement” such as engaging with children and staff hygiene (food handling and washing hands before touching foods etc).

Would this concern anyone else?

The best stain remover?!

What’s the best stain remover to use on clothes? We have been using the YassClean where you scrub & then soak and that’s been working really well for us but not ideal ordering it off tik tok every time (and it’s currently out of stock and I’ve ran out!!)… I’d prefer something more easily accessible and that won’t break the bank? (UK BASED)