Hating every bit of newborn and pp

Don’t judge me.

FTM and I’m finding it too difficult to adjust to this newborn and pp phase. I am in constant anxiety about producing enough breast milk for her. I rush her back to sleep and in constant awareness that she’ll wake up and ask feeds. I’m also using 1-2 feeds of formula milk. Breastfeeds has become an anxious task for me and I’m not enjoying the baby.

I hope this phase is temporary and it will pass. Currently 2.5 weeks postpartum.

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It’s definitely temporary & you’re certainly not alone.
If breastfeeding is making you so unhappy / anxious maybe switch to formula or pump milk?
It doesn’t make you love your baby any less for formula feeding.
Breastfeeding isn’t for everyone & honestly it’s hard work and relentless. You just do what you have to do to protect your mental health, your baby deserves a happy well rested mum 🩷

Do what feels right for you. If formula feeds helps and lowers your anxiety, do it. You are doing such a great job and this phase will pass. Make sure you use the help that's around you and speak to professionals if you need. Being a mum is hard! X

I’ve got a 2.5.yr old, I felt this way when he was a newborn and found I enjoyed it more and more the older he got. When you speak up about it you’ll find a lot more women feel this way than let on. It’s such a huge life change that nothing can quite prepare you for.

Second time round and I’m enjoying the newborn state a lot more, I think that’s just with having more confidence in what I am doing.

The newborn stage is a thankless task, it starts to feel easier once you start seeing smiles x

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