Is there an asshole here?

I am needing to vent, but also looking for objective perspectives. I am currently feeling so hurt and disappointed and just down. So today at my son‘s preschool, they had an art show displaying all the kids artwork. Their school artwork is even included in a citywide art show. I was so proud and excited and told everyone that my son had art in the art show and I was going to see it after work. I had specifically planned my workday so that I would be in the area to go see his artwork after school.

Today is his dad’s day to pick him up. So I look on the preschool app and see that his dad had one of his close friends pick up our son for the first time ever! He didn’t give me a heads up or a reason or let me know at all. So I’m like OK my son’s not here so I don’t get to see him. But then I go to see his artwork and the preschool Director informed me that my son took his artwork home with him to his dad’s house when he left early. I felt so upset and immediately started to tear up. So embarrassing. But I was really disappointed and had been looking forward to it all day. So I text his dad and asked him to please send me a picture of my son‘s artwork since he left early and took it home with him. He sent me a picture and said nothing else. I told him that that kind of stuff is really important to me. And asked him basically if in the future if he plans to pick him up early and take his artwork out of the art show if he would let me know ahead of time. I told him that I planned my whole day around this. His only response was OK. I am fuming right now!!! I am so upset! Am I being unreasonable? I know this is out of my control, but I really feel like my child’s dad is the asshole here! We have been having difficulties in our “coparenting“ relationship lately. I feel like he did this just to get at me and hurt me.

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How would you feel?

It's my birthday today and my partner has taken the day off.

We are planning on going for dinner later and his sister having our two boys.

Whilst he was in the kitchen doing something his phone kept ringing (we are open with our phones and can go on then whenever). I said to him oh this woman has called you three times and left a message saying call her. I asked should I reply? And he said yeah tell her I'm on annual leave today. I also messaged his sister back about later.

He raised his voice at me after and said don't go down my phone. I said to him why do you have to have a go at me on my birthday? I did cry and just went into the garden.

Shortly after he asked if I was ok and I said no, why be funny on my birthday? He said whatever and I just said I don't want to go out later now and he said good, that's fine by me.

Would you be upset about this on your birthday? I'm fuming.

Dirty butt from nursery

So on Thursday I picked my daughter up from nursery and came home and played a little. It was then time for her bath before bed and when I undressed her and took her nappy off I noticed she must've had a poopy diaper because her but crack wasn't completely clean. Now it wasn't disgustingly dirty but I'm expecting it to be clean y'know?

Now I know my daughter is in that stage where it's like wrestling an alligator to change her nappy but surely they should be used to this.

She's quite new to nursery and this was her second week. She poops daily and this was the only time she wasn't cleaned properly.

Do I let it go because it was a one time thing or do I bring it up to the nursery manager?

Swimming lessons

When did you start swimming lessons for your LO?

Do parents still teach their children ‘please & thank you’ nowadays?

I do a lot of volunteering and it mainly involves children and I’m generally shocked by the amount of children that don’t know about please & thank yous!! I’ve actually had a child asked me what the means? Like is please & thank you not a thing anymore!! 😵‍💫

I feel like I'm the worst mum in the world

Yesterday I was showering, and since I'm alone with my baby all day, I put him in his rocking chair (7 inches approximately from the floor) and guve him toys, and sing to him from the shower. He's 5mo, and very calm, I usually get 15 minutes to shower calmly, and then he gets a little fussy or bored at times. I was almost done and heard him complain, NOT CRY, but I got my head out of the shower to tell him I was almost ready, and saw him on the floor. He looked a bit scared, but wasn't crying or anything. I immediately got out of the shower, and dripping water holded him and kissed him, but he seemed fine, even smiled at me. My husband came home right at that moment, and I told him what had happened and he told me I should've been more careful (not angry tho) and took the baby so I could get dressed.
I started SOBBING the second I was alone, trembling and crying non stop, I felt like the worst mom in the world, and really spiraled on what could've had happened, and how bad could've it been.
Later I talked to my mom about it, and my hubby as well, both kept telling me he was okay, and this things happen all the time, but I can't shake this feeling of guilt. ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️

Sex saved my marriage.Men need sex a little more than we do .I softened my heart and stopped withholding it constantly and just started offering,I swear to God the kind of man he suddenly became is like day and night.

So I love sex but not as much as him .
Anyway I started offering him sex like a lot of,without any pressure for performance,just letting him cum as quickly as he wants,i stopped looking at it negatively,this only made him want more and i truly started enjoying it so much more.my libido is higher.
Our connection has changed,it’s so much deeper now,he has become so soft around me,wants to cook my favorite dinner maybe 4 times a week,keeps asking me if I need to go shopping for anything,if I need money in my account,suddenly just like that I’m so much happier and I feel like my heart weighs so much less .
I didn’t know sex can unlock so much in a man.

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