I feel like I'm the worst mum in the world

Yesterday I was showering, and since I'm alone with my baby all day, I put him in his rocking chair (7 inches approximately from the floor) and guve him toys, and sing to him from the shower. He's 5mo, and very calm, I usually get 15 minutes to shower calmly, and then he gets a little fussy or bored at times. I was almost done and heard him complain, NOT CRY, but I got my head out of the shower to tell him I was almost ready, and saw him on the floor. He looked a bit scared, but wasn't crying or anything. I immediately got out of the shower, and dripping water holded him and kissed him, but he seemed fine, even smiled at me. My husband came home right at that moment, and I told him what had happened and he told me I should've been more careful (not angry tho) and took the baby so I could get dressed.
I started SOBBING the second I was alone, trembling and crying non stop, I felt like the worst mom in the world, and really spiraled on what could've had happened, and how bad could've it been.
Later I talked to my mom about it, and my hubby as well, both kept telling me he was okay, and this things happen all the time, but I can't shake this feeling of guilt. ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️

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Am I bat shit?

I sent my child’s invitation ages ago to my brother and my brothers wife. My daughter was born ON THIS DAY. it’s hard to not realize this. I resend that invitation today cuz I’m just pissed. They decided to plan their wedding BEFORE MY CHILDS BIRTHDAY the day before at a LOCATION 8 HOURS AWAY. A fucking honeymoon destination. And now half my family won’t be at my child’s birthday INCLUDING MY DAD. MY DAD. Her GRANDPA. Becayse my brother comes first. My DAD hasn’t been to a SINGLE one of my child’s birthdays cuz he wasn’t sober. THIS IS THE YEAR HE IS AND HES MISSING HER BIRTHDAY for my brothers WEDDING that COULD HAVE BEEN PLANNED ON ANY OTHER WEEKEND.

May I add my brother is always coming first. He sees them before he sees us. Some days he sees them without telling us when I haven’t seen them for ages. (They live an hour away from both of us) I’m just so upset. And I was close with his wife and I was like I can’t even come cuz you know it’s my daughter’s birthday you said you’d be able to come to.. cuz your daughter is my daughters best friend. And now my daughter won’t even be able to see her friend that day either. I’m just so upset but maybe I’m being petty. It’s just it’s about my child idc about me it’s just deep because it’s my kid they won’t be showing up for.

Why is everyone obsessed with giving my child junk food 😅

I need to vent!
Since we started veaning everyone has been desperate to give my child sweets and chocolate and god knows what else…..
I’m a really into healthy eating and taking care of myself so naturally I do the same for my daughter.
I have been able to kind of fob them off saying oh yeah she would choke on that or whatever but now she’s turned one everyone keeps giving her stuff when they look after her that I don’t want her eating.

Also I’m not a monster she will have treats on special occasions it’s just not something that’s in our everyday diet so don’t want her to start expecting it. when she’s being looked after I give them plenty of pre cooked meals and snacks so it’s not like she’s even hungry

Will they get over this phase? Has anyone else come across this? Every time I kind of address it everyone just laughs and says give the girl the cake 😅

Nursery advice

Hi everyone

I wondered if anyone had any advice. I don’t want to come across as a naggy mum.

My little one started nursery at the end of March and he had a rough start. Constantly ill and off, so he hasn’t really settled. Drop off and pick ups are emotional, but we expected this.

We have had a few issues with the way nursery has been dealing with things. For example
- inconsistent reporting on the app
- things on the app that are not related to him
- not using our wipes and nappies
- giving him a dummy when he doesn’t have one
- giving him fish when he doesn’t eat it (they are aware of his dietary requirements)
- no pics / observations - last one we recieved was on March 28th
- staff not responding to our messages

We appreciate the main priority is looking after the children but the lack of communication or accountability leaves me uneasy.

We have raised this with the room leaders and staff and nothing has improved. We are now going to write to the nursery manager. Are we being unreasonable my raising our issues again ?

Advice ?

When is the right time to start applying for nursery’s ? I go back to work after a year off. Any advice?

I find it wild people are offended that I rather give birth alone & have our son at home

I didn't realize how offensive it is to decide to give birth alone, knowing that your son is at home with their Dad/your husband... When I tell people this they are always like "I wouldn't be okay with that". I started getting rude with my responses telling them that it's a good thing it's not their son, baby or birth. I made this choice... Yes ME because having a new baby in the home is going to be stressful for our son, so instead of having him elsewhere with a stranger I would rather him be in the comfort of his own home with his Daddy. It doesn't bother me, I am excited and at peace with this. We don't do nursery, babysitters, childminders and such and my Mum/step Dad can't fly here on a whim... Too expensive for the stay, airfare, transport, food etc. I already worked out plans in case *knock on wood* something goes wrong and also there are plans for my husband to come in with our son. It is just wild to me the people that try to say "send your son here" "hire this person" like... No and no and no.

How would you feel?

It's my birthday today and my partner has taken the day off.

We are planning on going for dinner later and his sister having our two boys.

Whilst he was in the kitchen doing something his phone kept ringing (we are open with our phones and can go on then whenever). I said to him oh this woman has called you three times and left a message saying call her. I asked should I reply? And he said yeah tell her I'm on annual leave today. I also messaged his sister back about later.

He raised his voice at me after and said don't go down my phone. I said to him why do you have to have a go at me on my birthday? I did cry and just went into the garden.

Shortly after he asked if I was ok and I said no, why be funny on my birthday? He said whatever and I just said I don't want to go out later now and he said good, that's fine by me.

Would you be upset about this on your birthday? I'm fuming.