Age gaps and second baby advice 😅

Hello guys . I’m currently 11 months pp and I want some advice . Are you one and done and glad you made that decision ? Did you go for a second child and regret the decision (NOT THE CHILD) , did you decide to go for another and it was a smoother transition than expected ? I found my first baby extremely difficult especially the first 3 months we had tongue tie, colic , reflux , waking every 30 mins . She still wakes at night . I had bad anxiety especially with SIDS and also ppd which I never medicated for and now regret . I look back on the time and it’s just a blur until maybe 5 months onwards . I enjoy her so much more now that she’s older and I love being a mother . My husband constantly bring up more babies in the future but I genuinely don’t know if I could do it again . I also love maintaining myself and having some time for me when she naps but when I have two will I lose this time ? Can people share their experiences . Was a second child worth it ? What age gap was best ? I am deffo open to a larger age gap but not more than 5 years . But if it would make things easier then I could do it . I know 2 would be my absolute max children but I constantly go back and forth between one and done or two . The main reason is for her to grow up with a sibling especially as an adult I think it would be beneficial . At the end of the day it’s personal decision but advice and experiences would help a lot 💗💗💗

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I have a two year age gap. So my first is 2.5 years and second is 5 months old. It was planned that way. I knew it would be hard but I think I underestimated how hard it would actually be without any support. I don’t have family close by and my mum still works. I think it’s slowly getting better but it’s still difficult, especially the sleep deprivation. I think if you have the time to wait it’s worth waiting until your first is 3 or 4 and more independent. I wouldn’t say I regret it though, I just wish I had access to more help 😅

I have a two year age gap and now they’re 2 and 4 I absolutely love it!! Of course the first 12-18 months were a little rough, but it just gets easier and then you’re pretty much raising 2 kids at the same time. They play together and they like very similar things because of the close age gap. Good luck!

We had a rough time with our first (I mean rough labor, NICU stay, lots of extra appointments, barely slept) but it got easier as she got older so we went for our second when she was about 2 (they’re 3 and 1 now) and we love it! She helped with the baby and loves her. They’ve turned into best friends (they do fight a lot though lol) the second baby was so much easier and we got better sleep (she still mostly sleeps better than our oldest lol) it can be tough having 2 kids fighting, making a mess, not sleeping great, and whatever else but it’s been so great and totally worth it! We plan on having 2 more

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she arrived via emergency c-section after what can only be described as a very traumatic induction at 40 weeks due to GDM and Polyhydramnios but on the 8th May at 40+1, not sure what time as I was out of it but weighing 8lb 1oz not the 9lb 7oz the consultants had been predicting, taken to breast feeding like a champ and is just the picture of perfectness and I am just so in love 🥰🥰🥰

Probably been asked many times before!

FTM and opting for an elective C-Section. 34 weeks at the moment and feeling woefully uninformed about the whole process. We have a consultant appointment next week but does anyone have any pre and post op advice or tips I should know?

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Throughout my pregnancy and even before, I wanted to avoid a c section where possible. Im 40+2 today and after a really horrible interaction with a consultant pushing and railroading me in to an induction, im just kind of filled with doubt and fear. Something I haven't felt until now.

I wanted to really try for a spontaneous natural delivery, but am totally open to pain relief, and interventions where necessary for baby's or my health and safety. But getting to this point now, with an induction date booked for 40+8 next week, im wondering if its just worth booking a c section and being done with it. I had my first sweep done yesterday and I was 2cm dilated but my midwife said my cervix was still closed. I have another booked for Tuesday.

I dont really know why im posting, solidarity, positive induction or c section stories or just some encouraging thoughts might be helpful from those on the other side or in the thick of things too.

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Has anyone else experienced this?