useless partner

I’m here to rant and if anyone can relate. my bf is useless he does not do anything, when my daughter cries she does not settle with him because he has never comforted her or taken care of her. I have sleep less nights and still have to do everything round the house, he does one thing which is clean the bottles he even complains about sterilising them and doesn’t do it. he thinks he has it worse because he has to get up at 5 in the morning for work yet i wake up every 2 and a half hours because she wakes up (4months btw). he says all i have to do is feed and change her and put her to bed and that’s it. I have had so many conversations about it with him and he’s always turned it into arguments because he thinks he is saying he’s a bad dad. i have never left her with him for longer than 20 minutes (while i shower) because he doesn’t know how to look after her and what she needs it is ridiculous!! i need help what do i do or can anyone relate???

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What would you do?

My friend has been talking to other parents about my sons disability. They both go to the same school and I know it was her cause the other parent who told my husband about it was someone we've never met before.

She asked how my son was with his disability and my husband was completely taken aback. I can't drive so I never do the drop off or pick ups. My friend is the only parent in the entire school who knows about my son's disability. It isn't obvious, it's a hidden disability.

Do I confront this friend and ask them about it? Do I let it blow over my head? I've distanced myself from this friend of mine recently. We also work together and she is avoiding me like the plague. Normally she's chasing my tail and messaging every five minutes.

Does she know that I know? Is she feeling guilty? I feel like she is because she is being unusually quiet at work. She hides in her office and never leaves, then goes home early. Usually she is storming around the place like a little hurricane.

She finally spoke to me a few days ago and she was very timid. I'm half tempted to call her out on it but I know it will cause an all out war.

So what do you think I should do?

Does anybody else feel irritated / annoyed about their husbands/ boyfriends ? Is this normal?

First time mom to a baby that will be turning 7 months soon and I love her but it’s overwhelming , tiring and overstimulating at times to be a mom and to be a wife … I feel irritated towards my husband and feel stand offish towards him . He’s a good dad and tries to help as much as he can but I feel like even when he does help it irritates me or bothers me which I feel makes me crazy 😅 our relationship has been okay but I wouldn’t say I’m the happiest I’ve been or that we’re on “fire “ for each other it just feels bleh right now not bad but not good.. anybody have any advice ??

The nursery store - legit?

Has anyone ordered off the nursery store before? Never heard of it before so wondering if to trust it or not 🤔

Am I a d-head for not giving my sister and brother in law all my baby things?

I’m looking like such a bad person here but anyways my partners brother and his wife just had their second baby (a boy this time) after having a baby girl 12 months ago. We had our first babies together they were born a week apart (I had a boy). Everything they brought for their first was gender neutral except clothes and despite them knowing they was pregnant they decided to throw/give away everything. Space wasn’t the issue as my in laws would’ve stored it for them until baby was here. So now they asked for the clothes my sons grown out of which I was happy to give to them but now they are also asking for my car seat, bouncer, Moses basket, next to me, baby carrier, playmat and so much more but I’ve stored those away for a future baby and they are quiet expensive ones I’ve got even though I was struggling and still am with money I saved and invested in good quality products so I can use them again for a second baby. My mil and fil are trying to pressure me to give them up and no one’s offering money except for the car seat they said they’ll pay £20 for I paid £230😬 they’re all making me seem like this horrible person whose selfish even though it’s my partner who they are asking and he said no

Am I overreacting

My aunt, I call her mom, is throwing a pool party Mother’s Day celebration. I got the invitation and the time was set for my almost two year olds scheduled nap time, so I texted her I’d try to make it but wasn’t sure if we would and I let her know it was because of nap time. She then texted me back telling me not to worry about it because she had concerns about my child in the pool. She said it was because of how many people would be there and that I “can’t take my eyes of him for 30 seconds”. Mind you he’s been in the pool multiple times, I e always been safe about it floaties, life jackets etc. I believe that it’s just because I’m the youngest parent there, I’m 23, because she’s never expressed concern like this for any other young child, I’ve seen unattended 4 year olds who can’t swim in her pool before multiple times. I was really hurt, this woman watched me birth my child, and made me feel like she thought I was incapable of a parent even though I’ve never given a reason for doubt. I told her we’d find a different day, I didn’t tell her how she made me feel, after this she said I could come if we could make it work and that she has a life jacket for him(I own multiple myself) I told her we’d find a different day. I feel hurt and just want to tell her but I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if this is valid
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Feel bad asking MIL to leave early

I'm 4 days pp and MIL is staying with us for a week to help with toddler and newborn

I feel guilty but I asked my husband if she can go early because she's not really helping and it's actually creating more work.

Like she'll make toddler her breakfast or dinner but will leave all the dishes and mess.
She makes her own breakfast but only eats half and leaves her bowl by the sink, with the food still in, to be washed by us.
Won't do laundry/ washing up/ bathtime / bedtime. Idk why
Won't walk the dog.
Even made herself toast but double dipped so there's crumbs in the butter 😅😅 I think you get the idea.

She just sits and helps by holding our baby but honestly that's not helping especially since I'm bfeeding.

My husband thinks I'm being ungrateful but honestly I'm struggling to keep up with cleaning after her and juggling everything else.