Am I a d-head for not giving my sister and brother in law all my baby things?
I’m looking like such a bad person here but anyways my partners brother and his wife just had their second baby (a boy this time) after having a baby girl 12 months ago. We had our first babies together they were born a week apart (I had a boy). Everything they brought for their first was gender neutral except clothes and despite them knowing they was pregnant they decided to throw/give away everything. Space wasn’t the issue as my in laws would’ve stored it for them until baby was here. So now they asked for the clothes my sons grown out of which I was happy to give to them but now they are also asking for my car seat, bouncer, Moses basket, next to me, baby carrier, playmat and so much more but I’ve stored those away for a future baby and they are quiet expensive ones I’ve got even though I was struggling and still am with money I saved and invested in good quality products so I can use them again for a second baby. My mil and fil are trying to pressure me to give them up and no one’s offering money except for the car seat they said they’ll pay £20 for I paid £230😬 they’re all making me seem like this horrible person whose selfish even though it’s my partner who they are asking and he said no
Am I overreacting
My aunt, I call her mom, is throwing a pool party Mother’s Day celebration. I got the invitation and the time was set for my almost two year olds scheduled nap time, so I texted her I’d try to make it but wasn’t sure if we would and I let her know it was because of nap time. She then texted me back telling me not to worry about it because she had concerns about my child in the pool. She said it was because of how many people would be there and that I “can’t take my eyes of him for 30 seconds”. Mind you he’s been in the pool multiple times, I e always been safe about it floaties, life jackets etc. I believe that it’s just because I’m the youngest parent there, I’m 23, because she’s never expressed concern like this for any other young child, I’ve seen unattended 4 year olds who can’t swim in her pool before multiple times. I was really hurt, this woman watched me birth my child, and made me feel like she thought I was incapable of a parent even though I’ve never given a reason for doubt. I told her we’d find a different day, I didn’t tell her how she made me feel, after this she said I could come if we could make it work and that she has a life jacket for him(I own multiple myself) I told her we’d find a different day. I feel hurt and just want to tell her but I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if this is valid
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Drowning in it
Is anyone else absolutely drowning in the whole mum thing? This is my second time around. My eldest is 3 and i also have a 13week old. I imagined I would be super mum while on maternity, cleaning, cooking, getting out, keeping the kids entertained and supporting their development. I actually feel like i have to sacrifice things because I cant do it all. I never did much with my first (poor mental health and not knowing what to do), so i know i am still doing way more now but I cant do it all. How are people doing everything? If i want to read to my kids it means i have to skip cleaning, if i want to feed the baby then I have to skip playing with my toddler. There doesnt seem to be enough time in the day to do it all. I'm barely eating and drinking because it means sacrificing something else. 🙄
