Am I expecting too much from others ?

im sincerely struggling with loneliness during this pregnancy i’ve always struggled with friendships because it’s always one sided , friends who are inconsistent and only reply when they feel like it . It’s draining so i stopped putting in the energy blowing up peoples phone . I was never the type to be like I’m not texting first but after a long time, I realize it’s best for my sanity and mental health because it really all just one side truly and it drains you . I have people that check on me every now and then saying how much they’re there for me & how much they love and care for me and I just don’t feel like it’s sincere. I need you guys to understand if you read this that I’m not asking someone to blow up my phone all day or always hanging out all I can say is regardless of anything everybody picks up their phone everyday these are people that I know who spend time on the phone during the day. I’m just asking for consistency and something genuine .
And sometimes it feels like i’m asking for the world .
I have my husband and I’m truly grateful for that he really is my best friend the biggest support he does everything with me and doesn’t open his mouth to every complain but sometimes I do want a true friend and it hurts a lot .

And I wanna be open to meet new people but it’s a cycle no one replies 😅

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Dm girl I swear me reading this sounds exactly how I feel 🥺🩷

Same!
I had what I thought were friends for life, then I stopped always being the first reaching out and suddenly months went by, then years and I thought well ok. I never knew that life could be this lonely

I feel exactly the same! You’re not alone 🫶🏼 x

Same same! It’s a very strange phenomenon. Two of my sisters live 20 mins from me and I know for sure that if one of them was pregnant with a toddler I would be asking them if they needed a sitter to give them a rest or even just hanging out to let me get things done. What I’m learning is that everyone is not me and I am extra thoughtful about other people but they aren’t the same for me. I am learning to accept it but it’s difficult when you are pregnant and craving community. I’m leaning on God these days during the third trimester.

You're not alone 🫶🤍

Totally understand this, you're not the only one x

I feel this way too. It was hard making friends before I had a baby but now it feels a million times harder and the friends I thought I had don’t understand what life is like for me now as a mom so they just stopped talking to me.

Same!!

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Cheating?

My friend recently told me that my bf has cheated on me but here’s the catch. She didn’t have any proof and my bf timeline adds up to everything he said he was doing. he doesn’t really have time to go anywhere and he’s always at home. I do believe that he didn’t because he isn’t acting different in any kind of way, but he is a very private person. We have two kids together and been together since 2021. We recently had a baby in January. I truly don’t think he did anything but then why would my friend lie? I’m really confused.

DO NOT ADD!!

Please don’t add @its_jasmineeexo on Snapchat! I’ll add another picture in the comments.

She’s a racist, homophobe and constantly belittles people. If you’re not chatting with her all day she’ll start arguments and belittle you. It’s not nice and she has a small group of followers. My friends and I have a Snapchat group with good vibes. She joined and completely ruined it. Once removed, she added people from my group and started adding them to hers, saying crude things. Check out the group name too; before it was “Hitler’s Hoes”.

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Sad 😢

My boyfriend took our 11 month old to go see his family for the day. I didn't go because they don't know I'm pregnant yet. I feel sad and alone, I really have no friends and I don't know how to be alone

Going threw a breakup

Going threw a breakup finding it hard atm I have also just moved to a new area and away from all family etc
So it’s very hard atm
The loneliness is horrible
The anxiety it’s all just sad right now
My hearts hurting
I don’t want go into details
Just reaching out