My fear of birth is being dismissed

It is completely normal to worry, I’m pregnant with my first and I worry as well I hope to have a natural birth but sometimes it’s just best for you and your baby to get a c section, just do what you feel is right for you and baby and no matter the outcome wether it be natural or c section all that matters is that the baby is delivered safely and you’re not a failure if you need to have a c section birth, you got this mama!

don’t get an elective c section if you don’t want one, its not weird to feel nervous about a life changing event - its very normal.

you go into labour and your body and mind just go into go mode and you get through it

the healthcare professionals that will be with you do this everyday and know how to tackle anything that may come up if anything

no matter how ur baby comes out of you - nothing even matters once you are handed that baby

try not to be too anxious, your body will know what to do when the time comes and it will all be ok x

It's totally normal to be nervous and maybe others just don't know how to help. Do some research. Talk to the hospital or wherever you plan to give birth. Find out what you can do. Lights off, different positions, ECT. Once you have those contractions you won't be able to focus on anything else. I had a wonderful laboring nurse. Knew how to provide comfort and guidance. I didn't care if she was lying to me saying I was doing a great job, it was helping. Good team and good support make such a difference

I literally feel the same! Like I actively try not to think about the labour part 😂 a c section is only part of our plan if it's medically necessary. I think the thing to focus on is just making sure they come out as healthy as they can, however that may be (medically advised of course)

Labour was (and still is. Ill explain why in a bit) my biggest fear when I was pregnant. Honestly didnt know what to expect. I was induced so I knew that can make contractions worse. But honestly not that bad. Period cramps meets that stomach cramp you get when you have norovirus/stomach bug. I managed 8 hours unmedicated but do take pain relief if you want it.

My induction failed and I did have an emergency c section (this is why labour still terrifies me). It wasnt a bad experience. Theatre was super calm and they were lovely. But I was majorly against having a c section and all the midwifves knew this - yet suggested it a few times prior. Went in terrified and im still not 100% 2 years later. I need a lot more therapy to truely recover.

Just try to relax. Move about and utilise gravity. Squatting and on all fours is a good possition when pushing them out