Changing child care plans at last minute

Today was my first day back at work after maternity, I’ve started a new job which is better suited to me spending more time with my baby, I literally work 4 hours a day and that is it, my son doesn’t start nursery until September when he is 1 when we get the funded hours, anyway so the arrangement was that my sister in law babysits on Mondays and then my mother in law baby sits Tuesday- Friday with the father in law dropping by occasionally during the week if he wanted to basically. The arrangement has always been that they will be coming to my house to baby sit. I have made a booklet with everything they would need to know, what time and how to make his bottle (they would only be doing the one bottle as I would be home for the next feed) and what food to give him, nap times, teething gel, I bought a new stroller for them that is much lighter than my pram so that they can take him for walks etc, literally everything has been planned out for the baby sitting to happen at mine and like I say, I work only 4 hours a day Monday - Friday!
Sister in law came round today everything went swimmingly and no issues.
Mother in law rang me at half 4 this afternoon, asking do I know I’m taking my son up to theirs tomorrow morning before I go to work and then picking him up after work? I say no I know nothing of this?? Turns out my useless partner (who after today I am questioning do I even want to be with him) didn’t bother to tell me that apparently his mum had said all along that she didn’t want to come to our house to baby sit and it would be happening at theirs, the main reason is that father in law doesn’t know how to work our tv and wants to be able to watch his own tv in his own house, she wants to be able to drink her own coffee from her own coffee cups??? And she wants to be able to do the washing??? (Put the clothes in the washer and press a button) they have nothing up there apart from a few basic baby toys, they don’t have nappies, changing mat, nappy bags, nappy cream, clothes, milk, bottles, bibs, basically everything they have at mine they don’t have at theirs. Less than 24 hours I was told this was the plan. I have crippling post partum anxiety and my partner knows this. I have been having therapy for this and it took a LOT for me to accept that I would be going back to work and leaving him, all be it for only 4 hours a day but to me that feels like 4 years, it took a LOT for me to accept that the in laws will be babysitting but it made me feel better that it would be at my own house. (My parents can’t babysit as they are working, in laws are retired and so this was supposed to be the plan) now I feel physically sick knowing that tomorrow morning I don’t have a clue what I’m supposed to do! I don’t want my son going to their house they don’t even have baby gates, and I’m not filled with joy that for 4 hours the tv will be on and she will be watching the washing machine or whatever, instead of solely focusing their full attention on my son, his routine at home would literally be, bottle, food, nap, walk, play and then I return home.
Me and my partner have had a massive argument over this and he can’t understand why I’m upset that I was the last to know this plan and that it’s been dropped on me at the very last minute.
I have asked my new manager if I am able to delay starting work until September when my son will be in nursery but I am waiting for a reply and expect the answer to be a no, I am thinking I will have to quit and hope to find a new job in September.
My anxiety is refusing to let me think he will be safe and happy at their house and I can’t understand why they can’t just come to mine. For 4 hours.
My partner said he will take the car seat from his car and give it to his mum and I have said all along I don’t want anyone else to drive him except me and him, not even my own mum, his sister definitely not as she constantly crashes her car and I just don’t want him to be in a car with anybody else.
I’m sorry for the massive rant I’m just in panic mode and my anxiety has gone through the roof I can’t think straight.

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Would you attend a funeral with a baby?

Girls.. help! So my nans brothers funeral is tomorrow and we were only going to go to the wake because who tf brings a baby to the service, let alone the whole days worth of planning for naps and feeds. Yet my nan is driving me crazy keeps pestering me and my mum repeating herself about "oh but can't C(my partner) just wait in the car with R(baby) and then all go to the wake together". Like are you f****** kidding me, its so disrespectful and makes me not even want to go, I'm only going in the first place to be respectful to her, I barely knew him. Now I've just found out that bringing a baby to a funeral/wake is bad luck. So now I don't even want him to go to that. Honestly I've had enough with this bs. What would you do? Would you bring your baby to a wake?

Kleptomaniac‼️

I’m not sure how to say this, it’s pretty embarrassing hence the incog, but I’m at a complete loss.

My husband is a total kleptomaniac!

I’m finding it so difficult and uncomfortable whenever we go out because he just can’t help himself. It’s always petty stuff, he doesn’t need it half the time, and even then it’s not like we can’t afford it. But he just can’t help it!

Sometimes I catch him doing it and shoot him a look without being to obvious but he thinks it’s funny. Once we’re out the shop the same conversation/lecture happens where I ask him why he’s doing it and that he needs to stop, but he laughs it off. Other times I literally don’t see a thing and am in complete shock but I aways feel embarrassed.

He’s been caught once or twice but nothing serious has happened. One of these days I can see him getting into a lot of trouble for it but he can’t see it that way, he gets such a kick out of it.

What do I do?

Husband says I blew him off.

Yesterday Mother’s Day, husband said I can do whatever I want to do since it’s mother’s days. So I decide to do a video crafting session with my twin and had a friend join who I haven’t talked to in a long time. Well husband decided to play a game last night and got done around 9pm. Sundays are our normal hangout nights for me and the husband. Well he was playing his game so I decided to stay talking to my twin. He calls me after he finished his game around 9pm. I tell him I’m still talking to people he gets mad. Mind you we don’t have to do our thing on Sundays. Well I finish up with my twin around 9:30. I go to find him to do our thing and he’s passed out in bed. Well fast forward to this morning he’s pissed at me and ignoring me saying that I blew him off last night. And I’m like I told you what I was doing, you told me that I’m free to do whatever I want with the day. And now he’s being a dick to me. Like how am I in the wrong?

Nursery advice.

Long post.

My daughter was on a waiting list to join a nursery, we managed to get her a place and we was so excited for her to start in September.

Unfortunately, my partner was made redundant (his workplace was right next door to the nursery and suited the hours) so I emailed to cancel her place… which I definitely rushed into without thinking.

We’ve now made arrangements for her to go to this nursery so I emailed to see if she can still rejoin and explained the situation. Do you think this nursery will still accept her if a space is available still?

Why do so many of ya'll assume a SAHD is a pedo, a loser, or just trying to steal you all from your husbands?

Could it be possible that SAHD's just love thir kids, need a support system, and want their children to be able to have playdates and friends?
My SAHD doesnt want you or your children. So stop banning my kid from playdates and socialization souly because of whats in his pants.

Tax free childcare

I have applied for the childcare funding which has been approved, I had a message to say I should hear regarding tax free childcare within 7 days but it has been nearly 3 weeks, just wondered how long it has taken other mums to hear back and if I should
chase!