Kleptomaniac‼️
I’m not sure how to say this, it’s pretty embarrassing hence the incog, but I’m at a complete loss.
My husband is a total kleptomaniac!
I’m finding it so difficult and uncomfortable whenever we go out because he just can’t help himself. It’s always petty stuff, he doesn’t need it half the time, and even then it’s not like we can’t afford it. But he just can’t help it!
Sometimes I catch him doing it and shoot him a look without being to obvious but he thinks it’s funny. Once we’re out the shop the same conversation/lecture happens where I ask him why he’s doing it and that he needs to stop, but he laughs it off. Other times I literally don’t see a thing and am in complete shock but I aways feel embarrassed.
He’s been caught once or twice but nothing serious has happened. One of these days I can see him getting into a lot of trouble for it but he can’t see it that way, he gets such a kick out of it.
What do I do?
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Wow maybe send him videos of people being arrested or detained. Plenty of of shoplifting videos at stores when leaving the store pn tiktok and YouTube. Also look up the laws on petty theft.
If he understands that it’s a problem, help him find the help and support he needs. Explain to him how he’s behaviour is impacting others especially his own family.
Certain stores will let him "get away" with it until he hits enough stolen goods to get felony charges.
Stop going shopping with him. He can't control himself, and do you really want to be with him when he gets arrested? If he won't look into therapy or support groups to stop, it's okay to consider leaving. Start getting your affairs in order just in case.
My ex used to do this, on reflection it was a bit of a red flag for his heavy sense of entitlement.
Is he open to getting help?
I watch a lot of police body cams and especially Walmart will fry him 😭 they will wait until he hits felony levels, charge him and ban him for life nationwide. If you're with him you could get caught up and they might think you're part of some sort of shop lifting ring. I wouldn't go into stores with someone I know steals.
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