Weaning & meals

Hey 👋

How many meals are your little ones eating a day?

Currently I’m doing one meal a day at either lunch or dinner depending on our schedule etc

We do a mix of BLW and puree food so when he has a meal he does actually eat quite a lot

Bonus points for any meal ideas too please 🤭🫶🏼

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Should I speak up

My mother-in-law on multiple occasions has been making comments that I feel like are trying to provoke a response.

Full disclosure, we have always had a great relationship. She is super sweet and understanding but since the baby was born I feel like the lines have gotten mixed. Or maybe I'm just a first-time mom who is overanalyzing everything

First, I've expressed anxiety over going back to work after my maternity leave is up in late June. On two occasions in front of me and once over the phone with my husband, she says something along the lines of “ number of weeks to go or you are going back to work soon right?”

Second, right in front of me she says she's going to take the baby home for a sleepover. Due to my horrible poker face, she quickly backtracks and says “Grandma doesn't make milk like mommy so I guess I'll wait” or “Mommy can come too.”

Lastly, she likes to refer to my lo as her baby on occasion she’ll throw in “Grandma’s baby” but most of the time it's “my baby.” (This one is annoying but the least of my concerns).

So, am I overreacting? Have you experienced anything like it?

Would you attend a funeral with a baby?

Girls.. help! So my nans brothers funeral is tomorrow and we were only going to go to the wake because who tf brings a baby to the service, let alone the whole days worth of planning for naps and feeds. Yet my nan is driving me crazy keeps pestering me and my mum repeating herself about "oh but can't C(my partner) just wait in the car with R(baby) and then all go to the wake together". Like are you f****** kidding me, its so disrespectful and makes me not even want to go, I'm only going in the first place to be respectful to her, I barely knew him. Now I've just found out that bringing a baby to a funeral/wake is bad luck. So now I don't even want him to go to that. Honestly I've had enough with this bs. What would you do? Would you bring your baby to a wake?

Help needed please!

Little one has just turned 6 months, has been weaning for a couple of weeks but all of a sudden has turned into a right cranky demon around milk time - he cries any time the bottle goes near his mouth, teeth are sat in the bottom gum but are not making any appearance yet! Do we think he’s teething or could it be something else? Stressed he’s not getting enough milk - can anyone suggest what I could try! Thanks a stressed out mum who wants her boy to love milk again! Xx

Partners

My baby boy is 11weeks what’s everyone’s partners like helpful non helpful and what do they do to be helpful

Am I being over sensitive?

I’m pregnant right now and I have a baby under 1. I’m super nervous because my husband really doesn’t help much around the house most days. He says it’s because he’s tired from work. Or if he had too much to drink with his friends. Or tired from golf. Either way there’s always an excuse.

I am a stay at home mom so I understand that is my job and I’m happy to do it. But I also would like to a break especially now that I’m pregnant again. Even when I wasn’t, I never said “i can’t take care of our child because I’m hungover”.

What do I do? I’ve tried talking to him about it and he just keeps saying he needs to make money for us. Truthfully I have no problem spending it so it should all make sense to me. But I’m just annoyed and worried what life will be when I’m a little less mobile from pregnancy or when I have a newborn and a toddler 😭

‘I need to step up’

I need to step up is what my husband told me.

I need to vent. Randomly out of what I thought was a civil and playful conversation turned into what I feel was a personal attack on me. I was asked when last did I do skin to skin and it’s honestly been a while. I responded well you can do the same.

He then proceeds to ask why I haven’t bathed her today. Why I haven’t brushed her mouth. That he relies on me to do stuff first to encourage him. I paused and asked, so who do I lean on when I need some fucking encouragement?! Idk about you all, but I feel like I’ve REALLY tried. I didn’t have an established bond with her at first and she’s just a month+ old. I feel like the bond is coming & I’ve put in work to make that happen so it just really sucks that my husband has continued to trigger me instead of uplifting me & cutting me some slack.

He gets to go out with his friends, go to work and have a break when it suits him. If I sleep for long periods/ask him for a helping hand it’s ’oh you need to step up’ . So much happened but we’d be here all day.

This whole experience has been so traumatic to the point I have no interest in having another child at all. I’ve put up with disrespect for far too long.

I contacted perinatal mental health to self refer & then called ooo to vent and decompress. The next thing is ‘oh they better not take my child from me’?!?!? What?! I need this for me! I need help because I can’t get the mental help from him or family. They’ll judge me & I’m tired of protecting him when it’s damaging me inside.