Why do so many of ya'll assume a SAHD is a pedo, a loser, or just trying to steal you all from your husbands?

Well I do absolutely no think that and I would definitely join a male dad for playdates and would have no issue at all having my husband in a playdate with a female friend for playdate. We have different gender friends. Bit the problem is that (as I ve seen a Lot here) many women and men don't allow each other to have opposite gender friends (like if they can't behave with them or something??? I don't know). That's actually quite sad and I m sorry your family experience rejection for that.

Never heard this in my life 😂😂

I’m a SAHM and have no issue with SAHDs. Got one we regularly hang with for play dates. It’s a real shame if other mums are being so rude about it.

I wouldn't hang out with a stay at home dad but I don't assume they are pedos.

never heard this assumption lol

This is the 1st time I’ve heard of this assumption,and I’m usually around them in social groups…libraries etc

My friend's husband isn't a stay at home dad but we've hung out after gymnastics class when he's been off. He's on shared parental leave because they've had their second at the moment and we went to the park today! Because our children are friends, they want to play and he's nice enough, we chat. I never asked my husband's permission just told him about my day because he's not insecure and distrustful. I would have no issue with hanging out with a SAHD. Playdates aren't sexy. You don't even have time for chatting most of the time because the kids need all the attention 😂 I'm sorry your husband is encountering this sort of thing, it's such an outdated mindset so it's disappointing to hear of it being so widespread.

My husband is a SAHD temporarily while he's looking for work. I know I would be devastated if he was the social type (he's not) and got banned from playdates for that :(

Who thinks these things???? Huh???

I would absolutely love for my son’s father to be the one who stays home, he just unfortunately has higher earning potential outside of the home than I do.

This upsets me alot as my husband is a stay at home dad due to me earning more then him so just make sense

No one ever calls them that here. I've seen many stay at home dad's...

What a disgusting attitude. Sadly it doesn't surprise me. Men and women both can be so insecure; I can't imagine not trusting myself or my partner around a parent of the opposite sex. Parents are just parenting, I promise you, they ain't out there to pick you up. Get over yourselves. 🙄

Also, the lack of male support systems for situations like SAHD's is a real problem. It's like how trans people are consistently excluded from LGBT spaces because "it's not related to sexual orientation." Ok, but we're all going through a lot of the same experiences....? But there are fewer of them in number, so insisting that they "make their own communities" just results in more isolation and rejection.

Why are non of the options positive ones. One of my pals is a SAHD. We met at bookbug and did not know each other before parenthood. Our kids have play dates nearly every Tuesday and are really good pals. Why would I want to ruin that for my son or his daughter. It’s a beautiful friendship they have.

Not everyone lives in the dark ages. I think it’s a lot more common here - Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

There are a ton of SAHD and pat leave dad’s in my area I don’t think people care or notice. Their kids play the same as everyone else. I have been out numbered by dads at parks often enough.

Wtf ! Accusing someone of being a pedo is so fucked. Sorry girl 🥺 what a crap thing to happen

I wouldn’t mind hanging out with a sahd and would only think they’re creepy if they’re acting creepy lol

I do have to be really honest and say that the boys on my highschool football and basketball team were known by the girls at school to rape at parties. Several of them are dads now with wives who praise them online. One woman's good man is another woman's high school rapist sometimes.

I wouldn't have a play date with a dad but the toddler time I go to with my son at the library has some dads and our kids play together.
Most playgroups I've been to have atleast one dad and child present and everyone is friendly.

I don’t want to press any of those options haha but I’m curious to what the results are so I will. That’s so sad, I would happily hang out with a SAHD I don’t see the issues 🤦🏽‍♀️