first mother’s day

idk how to feel. it’s my first mother’s day and my mom kinda made a comment to me when i called her to wish her a happy mother’s day and it threw me off then my bf… it’s my first mother’s day and he didn’t get me anything/do anything for me. (granted he asked after the fact that i mentioned my dad asked what me and my bf had plans… anyway), he asked if i wanted him to go buy me a cake.. i get times are hard & im not working rn due to being on leave, but idk.. maybe im tripping & i told him no to the cake because why do i have to tell you ? why didn’t you think to surprise me. i do so much. he barely does anything unless i ask him to help me with the baby.. idk maybe im just being weirdly selfish…

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No you aren't. This is my first with my husband but this is his 5th. He didn't do anything for me and treated it just like a normal day too. I thought I was tripping for being upset about it. You arent. Its supposed to be at least a little special. You shouldn't have to ask for help but unfortunately some men you have to, even when its not their first. I guess my husband did something and that was take care of the baby long enough for me to sleep 4 hours. You deserve more than that honestly. At least a meal or chocolate or flowers. Those are cheap and still meaningful. Your feelings are very much valid. You went through a lot.

You’re doing awesome work! Happy Mother’s Day momass ❤️ and the way you feeling it’s totally Valid

He is a shitty person. You deserve better.

Hi first time mom who celebrated her first mother's day as well, no you are not being selfish he should have thought about you my fiance and his mom surprised me this year he definitely should have done so too

Yea, the feelings you have are incredibly valid. It was my first mother's day too and I reminded my husband last week as we've been super swamped with baby, he was doing finals in school, an album release show with one band and a show with another. He still went above and beyond to make me feel appreciated and seen. Matrescence is a huge life change and mothers day doesn't need to involve extravagant gifts but rather him going out of his way to honor and appreciate you with words or actions. It costs little to nothing to write a card, organize a nice walk, print off a picture of the 3 of you and put in a little frame from the dollarstore. Checkout family resource centers near you as they often have free events for such occasions. Money's going to be tight for a while but that doesn't mean he can't try. Let him know it hurt you and that it's not ok.

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Kleptomaniac‼️

I’m not sure how to say this, it’s pretty embarrassing hence the incog, but I’m at a complete loss.

My husband is a total kleptomaniac!

I’m finding it so difficult and uncomfortable whenever we go out because he just can’t help himself. It’s always petty stuff, he doesn’t need it half the time, and even then it’s not like we can’t afford it. But he just can’t help it!

Sometimes I catch him doing it and shoot him a look without being to obvious but he thinks it’s funny. Once we’re out the shop the same conversation/lecture happens where I ask him why he’s doing it and that he needs to stop, but he laughs it off. Other times I literally don’t see a thing and am in complete shock but I aways feel embarrassed.

He’s been caught once or twice but nothing serious has happened. One of these days I can see him getting into a lot of trouble for it but he can’t see it that way, he gets such a kick out of it.

What do I do?

Why do so many of ya'll assume a SAHD is a pedo, a loser, or just trying to steal you all from your husbands?

Could it be possible that SAHD's just love thir kids, need a support system, and want their children to be able to have playdates and friends?
My SAHD doesnt want you or your children. So stop banning my kid from playdates and socialization souly because of whats in his pants.

Husband says I blew him off.

Yesterday Mother’s Day, husband said I can do whatever I want to do since it’s mother’s days. So I decide to do a video crafting session with my twin and had a friend join who I haven’t talked to in a long time. Well husband decided to play a game last night and got done around 9pm. Sundays are our normal hangout nights for me and the husband. Well he was playing his game so I decided to stay talking to my twin. He calls me after he finished his game around 9pm. I tell him I’m still talking to people he gets mad. Mind you we don’t have to do our thing on Sundays. Well I finish up with my twin around 9:30. I go to find him to do our thing and he’s passed out in bed. Well fast forward to this morning he’s pissed at me and ignoring me saying that I blew him off last night. And I’m like I told you what I was doing, you told me that I’m free to do whatever I want with the day. And now he’s being a dick to me. Like how am I in the wrong?

Nursery advice.

Long post.

My daughter was on a waiting list to join a nursery, we managed to get her a place and we was so excited for her to start in September.

Unfortunately, my partner was made redundant (his workplace was right next door to the nursery and suited the hours) so I emailed to cancel her place… which I definitely rushed into without thinking.

We’ve now made arrangements for her to go to this nursery so I emailed to see if she can still rejoin and explained the situation. Do you think this nursery will still accept her if a space is available still?

Tax free childcare

I have applied for the childcare funding which has been approved, I had a message to say I should hear regarding tax free childcare within 7 days but it has been nearly 3 weeks, just wondered how long it has taken other mums to hear back and if I should
chase!

Bath toys

Can anyone recommend fun bath toys for 4+ year old please. Just had to bin most of my daughters toys as they were starting to get mould in or she just didnt play with them anymore as they were a bit babyish so just wanting some recommendations for fun ones please.