Mom but not a baby person

I have never been a baby person. People said it will change once I have my own baby. It didn’t tho… I love my baby but he is very demanding, always trying to get away never wants to cuddle. It’s like holding an eel all the time (since very beginning)He is now 8 months. He is very cute but taking care of him is such a drag for me. He gets frustrated easily and I just don’t know what to do with him anymore… Does it ever get better?

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it does they get more independence, it just takes time and age obviously but there whole existence as a child is needing you less and less until there adults and they move out, you wish it away when its happening but keep the perspective of when this phase ends it wont come back , theres relief in that

Babies feed off your energy. Maybe he feels something from you? Inadvertently maybe?

Currently feeling this way with my oldest as I'm not a "toddler person" but I am looking forward to the future knowing it will get better. I just do my best to enjoy the parts of a toddler that are enjoyable to me and remember the rest is just a faze. But sadly my newborn that would try to run away if you cuddled him still doesn't like to cuddle at almost 3 😕 that may not get better

Yes! I never wanted children, and I'm really struggling with postnatal depression. I love my son, but my god, this is challenging. I want to be a good mum, but it's so difficult when I never wanted this for myself. He's only 1 month, and I'm counting down the days until he's more independent. Everyone keeps going on about "don't wish it away," but it's okay to not enjoy this phase! It's okay to count down the days. 💕

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Kleptomaniac‼️

I’m not sure how to say this, it’s pretty embarrassing hence the incog, but I’m at a complete loss.

My husband is a total kleptomaniac!

I’m finding it so difficult and uncomfortable whenever we go out because he just can’t help himself. It’s always petty stuff, he doesn’t need it half the time, and even then it’s not like we can’t afford it. But he just can’t help it!

Sometimes I catch him doing it and shoot him a look without being to obvious but he thinks it’s funny. Once we’re out the shop the same conversation/lecture happens where I ask him why he’s doing it and that he needs to stop, but he laughs it off. Other times I literally don’t see a thing and am in complete shock but I aways feel embarrassed.

He’s been caught once or twice but nothing serious has happened. One of these days I can see him getting into a lot of trouble for it but he can’t see it that way, he gets such a kick out of it.

What do I do?

Why do so many of ya'll assume a SAHD is a pedo, a loser, or just trying to steal you all from your husbands?

Could it be possible that SAHD's just love thir kids, need a support system, and want their children to be able to have playdates and friends?
My SAHD doesnt want you or your children. So stop banning my kid from playdates and socialization souly because of whats in his pants.

Husband says I blew him off.

Yesterday Mother’s Day, husband said I can do whatever I want to do since it’s mother’s days. So I decide to do a video crafting session with my twin and had a friend join who I haven’t talked to in a long time. Well husband decided to play a game last night and got done around 9pm. Sundays are our normal hangout nights for me and the husband. Well he was playing his game so I decided to stay talking to my twin. He calls me after he finished his game around 9pm. I tell him I’m still talking to people he gets mad. Mind you we don’t have to do our thing on Sundays. Well I finish up with my twin around 9:30. I go to find him to do our thing and he’s passed out in bed. Well fast forward to this morning he’s pissed at me and ignoring me saying that I blew him off last night. And I’m like I told you what I was doing, you told me that I’m free to do whatever I want with the day. And now he’s being a dick to me. Like how am I in the wrong?

Nursery advice.

Long post.

My daughter was on a waiting list to join a nursery, we managed to get her a place and we was so excited for her to start in September.

Unfortunately, my partner was made redundant (his workplace was right next door to the nursery and suited the hours) so I emailed to cancel her place… which I definitely rushed into without thinking.

We’ve now made arrangements for her to go to this nursery so I emailed to see if she can still rejoin and explained the situation. Do you think this nursery will still accept her if a space is available still?

Tax free childcare

I have applied for the childcare funding which has been approved, I had a message to say I should hear regarding tax free childcare within 7 days but it has been nearly 3 weeks, just wondered how long it has taken other mums to hear back and if I should
chase!

Bath toys

Can anyone recommend fun bath toys for 4+ year old please. Just had to bin most of my daughters toys as they were starting to get mould in or she just didnt play with them anymore as they were a bit babyish so just wanting some recommendations for fun ones please.