Am I overreacting about this morning?

My husband still 'forgets' nappies are his responsibility as well, I need to check constantly before leaving house and naptimes and then usually do it myself:(

my husband takes the baby, changes his nappy, changes his clothes, cant feed him as bf, plays with him, ect every day. he has an infection in his wisdom tooth extraction sites, and I woke up today from a nap with bub to my partner at rhe end of the bed playing with him telling him to shh so mama can sleep. bub was happy, clean, changed. all this while he has an massive pain and infection. no excuse.

My husband works full time so doesn't solo parent much, but the times he is responsible for her she is fed, changed, dressed and entertained. Only difference is that I'm a little more hands on with entertainment but he gets a load of housework done so it's fair x

Mine sometimes forgot to change the nappy straight away in the morning, but I reminded him once and now he always does if he’s taken the baby of me so I can sleep more. This morning I needed more sleep as baby woke up extra early, and he took the baby, changed nappy, gave him breakfast and then gave him a bath as he was covered in porridge, then got him dressed and brought him in to me at 8:30am 😌
Maybe just remind your husband that nappies need changing first thing, and pjs too? Maybe he had something on his mind and just forgot

That's my partner. When we share the morning at the weekend he gets baby up and they stay in pjs have milk and normally doesn't have a nappy change till after his milk because "it didn't feel that full" that when I check coz it looks full its close to burstingy

For me, discussing 'roles and responsibilities' helped to not only delegate tasks based around each others' schedules/abilities, etc. but also to communicate and totally understand what exactly is needed doing (as unfortunately, as a generalisation sweep, guys don't always seem to know. So if they know, then they know - you know?)

I asked to have a conversation in a few days time where we individually think about and come to the table with the things that need doing (for baby and house) and then together devised a list and agreed who did what and when. Remembering that with a baby there has to be some trade offs with house stuff because you can't do it all!

With that, everyone knows what needs to be, by who and by when. And if it doesn't get done, you refer back to the list (the agreement). If it needs to change or adapt over time, cool. But there needs to be clear t&C's between you both.

Also, get him to look after the baby for a whole day and he will soon see just how hard and time consuming it is, and should empathise with you as well as get into 'practice' of the tasks. Offer support but also have to step back and allow him to do things his way and figure out... (Which can be painful to watch haha but necessary!)