I am trying to leave my partner but feel guilty

So basically, I’m planning leaving my partner at the moment. We had our daughter 2 years ago now and things have gotten increasingly more difficult between us. I stay at home, he works. His job is physically demanding and when he gets home the first thing he does is sleep. He rarely helps with any household tasks and spends little time with our daughter. When he is hanging out with us or looking after our child, he is glued to his phone or eventually falls asleep. We don’t really talk or spend much 1 on 1 time with each other and don’t have any romantic interactions. He doesn’t hold conversations with my family and even falls asleep at my parents house when we pop in for a visit. I have tried so hard to communicate kindly my needs as a partner, roommate and parent, and he sometimes he apologises and then does nothing differently, on the other hand he has also has responded with “i don’t know”, “whatever” and “ffs”. I have even read books and organised counselling (he didn’t follow through). Now I’ve said I want to leave him, he’s gotten really upset and said he doesn’t want me to go and I feel a bit guilty, like maybe this isn’t that bad? I also cannot bare the thought of thinking about less time with my daughter. I really wanted this tiny family to work, that is the best case scenario to me but I feel like I’ve exhausted all our options. I have no idea what I’m doing or what to do next. I feel super conflicted

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Why do so many of ya'll assume a SAHD is a pedo, a loser, or just trying to steal you all from your husbands?

Could it be possible that SAHD's just love thir kids, need a support system, and want their children to be able to have playdates and friends?
My SAHD doesnt want you or your children. So stop banning my kid from playdates and socialization souly because of whats in his pants.

Nursery advice.

Long post.

My daughter was on a waiting list to join a nursery, we managed to get her a place and we was so excited for her to start in September.

Unfortunately, my partner was made redundant (his workplace was right next door to the nursery and suited the hours) so I emailed to cancel her place… which I definitely rushed into without thinking.

We’ve now made arrangements for her to go to this nursery so I emailed to see if she can still rejoin and explained the situation. Do you think this nursery will still accept her if a space is available still?

Do you pack your husband’s lunch?

I saw this short of a wife packing her husbands lunch for work and there were so many comments of other women saying how they can do better and how they always send their men off in clean clothes and the best lunches. I’m flabbergasted lmao are we really doing this ladies?????? 😳🥴🫠

Nursery advise

When dropping my LO off at nursery, I have noticed that the lady who opens the door doesn't really acknowledge my daughter, and it has been getting worse. Today, she didn't even smile or say good morning to me or my daughter. This has troubled me and made me feel uncomfortable. I started noticing this in January when she started receiving us. My LO will start school nursery in September, which is why I was trying to hold out. But the reception we received from her today really unsettled me. Should I say something or any advice? I don't want to make things awkward for my daughter, especially.

home activities for toddlers?

what kind of things do u do with ur kids at home? because i do nothing
and social media makes me feel like i should do more 😂 i have a 3 yo girl in nursery and 2 year old boy i feel like they just play around all day and watch tv 🫤
they don’t enjoy colouring for long, painting is messy, writing no, play doh is fun but not for me to join in with them.. lol they don’t enjoy reading they don’t have bikes or scooters for parks and i find it hard to go anywhere by myself
i like the kind of activities that are educational any ideas would help so much!! x

Am I in the wrong…

Bear with me as this is lengthy.

My mum and I are not close at all for many reasons. We do not have a good relationship and she has taught me how I don’t want to be as a parent. Since having children she has made an effort to drive to me to see them, shes about 45 mins away from me.

I have a nearly 3 year old and a 13 week old. My eldest goes to rugby on a Monday and I have asked if she could come and look after the 13 week old. He usually has a nap around 8/8.30 for 45 mins or so on his own but this morning he wouldn’t settle on his own due to wind. To say he’s only 13 weeks, anytime he naps alone is brilliant in my opinion. I was leaving around 9 and said to her ‘he isn’t settling. Please can you just pick him up and hold him’ she said that she had him, to go and not worry he’d be fine.

We get to rugby and I check the baby monitor and he’s wide awake. So I message and tell her, he’s awake please can she just go and hold him. She replies ‘ I know he’s chatting away, I’ll try again’. I go back on the camera and she’s just moving her hand over his face. Still in his next to me. 10 mins goes by and she STILL hasn’t picked him up. I message again saying that he’s 13 weeks old, just pick him up and hold him. At this point he’s so overtired he’s really crying and kicking off. I can see she’s bouncing him and trying to get him back to sleep. I go back on the camera about 10 minutes later and she’s sat on the bed with him on her knee on his front and then she turns him over and starts to put him back down in his next to me awake. I have to use the intercom to tell her to just pick him up and hold him. She does and takes him downstairs so I can’t see anything anymore.

We leave rugby and get home where she rushes out to see my eldest. I ask with the 13 week old is and she replies ‘he’s asleep in bed’ I look at the monitor where he’s wide awake and crying. I go and get him and I am furious. All I asked was her to do is hold him. She then goes on the defensive saying that he’s full of wind, there’s clearly something wrong with him and he’s not well (he’s on CMPA milk and carobel. He’s a gassy baby. Which I’ve told her so many times). She then said she didn’t realise I meant hold him the entire time and that she thought he’d go back to sleep. I told her I won’t be asking for her help ever again, she had children over 30 years ago. He is my child who I’ve been with the entire 13 weeks of his life. I told her to simply hold him and she couldn’t even do that as she didn’t listen. I didn’t think I’d have to explain to told him the entire time. There isn’t a grandparent I don’t know who wouldn’t just love to sit and hold their grandchild.

She says I have spoken to her horribly and she didn’t deserve that. She then puts the water works on and says she’s leaving.

Was I in the wrong with how I’ve spoken to her?