My husband thinks that my breast milk isn’t good for the baby and that he’s wanting to eat too much and our first son drank formula. And he was such a good quiet barely cried baby. And this one had some bad baby acne it’s not that bad now but he’s still not even q month and I told him that happens but he brings up how our first had nice smooth skin. But I don’t think it has anything to do with the milk maybe more like each baby is different ? And he keeps referring to my milk as “poison” and it’s making me think it might be that? Any opinions on someone who did both ? And noticed any behavior changes ?
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Poison??? Unless you’re getting wasted or taking drugs that you shouldn’t be, it is not poison. I think mother knows best and if he needs a professional opinion, I suggest talking to a lactation nurse and bringing up any concerns that he has so they can help address them.

Is baby putting on weight ? If so your milk is doing just fine. Every baby is different, reading this has angered me how dare he make you feel like this your breastmilk is tailored to your baby’s needs I mean if you want you can combination feed but that won’t change anything he should never ever say anything like that to you

No offense but… what.!?? I’m no Dr but I’ve even heard of moms who are sick with life long illnesses breastfeed their children… Unless you’re doing drugs and drinking then I absolutely do not think it’s nice at alll that he’s referring to your milk as poison… but again… what the…

As the babies mother you have every right to breastfeed your child unless a Dr told you specifically that your milk is poisoning your child.. get an expert opinion pleaseee.

First of all, lets not listen to the male species when it comes to our female bodies
That “poison” has fed many babies for centuries long before your husband was born, absolutely is not poison and isn’t what is causing your babies acne, if anything quite the opposite! Breast milk has anti inflammatory and anti bacterial properties and will be far better for your baby
In the early days babies cluster feed to establish a supply If baby is gaining weight and there are no other concerns please don’t listen to the nonsense your husband says

Hun, breastfeed as long as you can and as much as you/ your baby want to. Your breastmilk is tailored specifically to your baby’s needs. If he has a rash or baby acne, illness or anything, it is all transferred through their saliva and when your little one latches your body then tailors the milk for his needs.
If you want to test your husbands theory out of respect, you can pump once and see how long he goes without being cranky.
I had a similar issue with my baby and we had to switch to a fortified diet because his little body was not sustainable on a “normal” diet. It had nothing to do with me and everything to do with his little metabolism. (Determined after 1.3wk admission to hospital)
I hope this helps in the slightest. My dms are always open if you need. I feel your pain and wish you and your little one the best.

I mean just show him studies such as this one https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39501212/

It sounds like he needs mental help if he’s referring to your breast milk as poison