sleep/crib training 😭😭

Honestly in the same boat with my (soon to be) 3mnth old and the "cry it out method"...I'm sorry but I really can't. I tried keeping her in her bassinet as much as possible but she cries and I've given it at least some time, she gets much more intense. I'm goin back to work this Saturday and I'm kinda nervous. I don't know how you did it in the first place. Her dad works overnight so was only with my 24/7 the first wk of having her. Im seriously anxious something might happen or he'll forget to stick with the scheduling on feeds an such. Plus he's a heavy sleeper and specifically wants her in her bassinet but I just can't. Tired and worn out as is....with goin back and my boss said she needs me back to my old schedule...I dnt know if I'll be able to do the 40+hrs a week again. I was against cosleeping as well but it's honestly easier. Plus I was continuing the house chores as much as possible. I found more comfort with her with me. Everyone is different and has their own thing so there's no wrong in it.

Sorry I couldn't be of help cause I'm in the same boat😕

I highly recommend to read here https://possums.org/parents/programs/baby-sleep

Super helpful, evidence based and easy to understand

I think Cosleeping is great, don’t see a problem here

Okay. So. Multiple ideas: 1 set specific times where you do Cosleep. The transition to little one sleeping in their own bed doesnt have to be drastic, it can be gradual with fall backs to be expected. But set some times where its always with you with no expectation of them doing it alone. Example. My boy sleeps in his own bed at night but during the day he will nap with me. 2. You can let baby cry but still be right there giving pats or strokes or shushing. Wear ear plugs if its too overwhelming. Fact is, you are there, youre not abandoning them, you are still giving comfort but in their own space. Ive also had to do this and it feels a bit bad sometimes but its not the same as cry it out because youre not abandoning. I usually try rhythmic patting, not changing it up, not rushed. Just a steady rhythm and maybe combine with shushing. Babies always take on our feelings even when we thing we dont show them, so if we are able to regulate and show regulation, they are able to calm after a while.

However, 2 works best if you are responsive. If the crying escalates and keeps escalating even after 5 and max 10 minutes then something has to change. Take baby out give them a cuddle. Let them calm down and then put back down and try again. (Not straight after calming but after a few minutes of them being calm already in your arms).

3 I am not sure if you have already but uou can use a stuffed animal or blankie to replace you. In that I mean something they can cuddle to sleep and then you move it either out of the bed or to the end of the bed while they sleep. Just make sure its something as safe as can be in terms of not very big, chunky or thick (blankie not thick or bigger than their face). Of course this isnt advised before 12 months. But if you are safe with it, and it works, then it works. My boy has a blankie, cuddles it to sleep and I remove it once he is in deep sleep. Tho atm we are kinda in a bind with that cause he wakes up in the middle of the night wanting it and its gone so ahhh. But yea. Start at your own peril (jk).

Point is. There are options. But nothing is rigid. And not everything works for everyone. Ive heard of mothers who literally coslept till their little one what like 2 or even 4 years old. Personally, I cant do that as my partner also enjoys my company. But some people can and do. For others its their only option. Ive also heard of people getting those mattress on the floor situations and they go sleep with their little one then leave once their child is asleep but I think thats more from around 2 or 3 years old. Im not sure

Thank you and will definitely try those out

I think it’s better to start with naps than night time. Let baby play in the r crib to see the space is safe.
Def not escalated crying because that mean they are not learning a thing