Potty Training

PLEASE HELP 🙏 🙏 🙏
I've posted before about potty training, but at this point I don't know what to do. My daughter won't keep her diaper on at night. I have her in pull ups during the day and diapers at night. She most of the time is dry through the night but when she takes a bit too long to go to bed by herself, thats when she pees before passing out. Whats worse is she is a night pooper. I've tried backward zippers, clips, buttons, tight pants, pull ups. They all end up being off. But tonight, was the worst, and basically my last straw. I usually catch it before anything happens, but this time, I didn't.... I go into her room, diaper off (empty) shit EVERYWHERE. Please🙏 What do I do, and how do I potty train? She knows what the word potty means, she knows where it is. She sits on it every morning and after naps and on and off during the day. So she knows what it is. People keep telling me to have her say it by teaching her the word, she knows the word but she is non-verbal. It is so much harder (I ENVY moms who have non-verbal children and are still doing it) She can't even tell me when she's hungry. I know there are non-verbal moms in here. PLEASE advice or tips ANYTHING. I'm so done and exhausted. And I've been told just to have her around in underwear. But its hard to find underwear that fits her because she is on the smaller side. Plus I have fake carpet, the shitty pull up tile carpet. I can't clean it. What do I do?

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I suggest getting on a routine the best you can and have her sit on the potty for a bit before bed what helped my daughter was a potty toy easy to clean fidgets are good. To distract them keep her busy. And if she goes on the potty give her a sweet or sticker anything you can think of that would be a reward to her so she knows but only when she goes potty or poop. As far as keep it on at night take her shopping let her pick out undies or diaper of her character choice or design might help want to keep it on. Or if she sleeps with a stuff animal put one on the stuff animal Ik dumb but I’ve seen it work 🤣 try and stop drinks and food a few hours before bed if possible it will help wit going in the bed. While training and gettting on that routine.

The best thing you can do is start a routine and be consistent the best you can or whoever is watching her aswell.

Would she maybe use a toddler potty in her room at night ? My toddler finally accepted potty training last month and he uses his bedroom one every morning when he wakes up before he’s ready to come out to the living room with me . I wish u the best of luck with potty training I know it’s really stressful

Is this only a night issue? If so, she may be uncomfortable sleeping with it on. I'd go ahead and see how she does in training underwear which has a pad in it as an extra layer of protection at night. Layer pee pads under her sheets or try to get one of those mattresses protection covers. Have her potty before bed and also stop drinks and food at a certain hour before bed. Try to find the sweet spot/cues to when she needs to go.

As for the carpet I've heard you can use baking soda to get rid of odors. Tiktok is usually my friend when it comes to cleaning solutions 😅

So this may not be helpfull in your situation but I worked with a young girl who kept pulling her underwear and everything off at school. Everyone was at a loss. Then one day, she came in with leggings that tight fitted to her. She no longer took any of her undergarments off. Maybe you could do that with your little one. I know its not the same. But maybe having like a tight almost second skin legging on on top of her nappy/pullup could stop her removing it?? Its a stretch but in case it helps

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All my uncles and aunties are great uncle -insert name. Or I like to call them uncle -insert name- the great for fun. I wouldnt call them grandma or grandad. To me it is special to be a grand parent. You dont get to just chose that youre grandma this or grandma that. Also my step mum finds it really special to her that we gave her granma title, her kids aren't close with her so its reallt special to her that she has been given that title. So for all these people just to be deciding they get that title too kind of makes it feel less special and I also think it would make her upset to know all these people have the same title. (Like she says thank you so much for letting me be grandma to your child, its so special to me- just for her to find out my daughter has 10 granmas, kind of takes away from her being given that title if you get me)
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Would you allow him around your child?

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Anyway he was only little so I thought he'd grow out of it. And I didn't hear anything for years about anything.
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