Lack of confidence

I got myself and my little boy ready for baby sensory this morning and just sat outside in the car too nervous to go in 🙈

My husband booked me for 5 classes and i've been to 1 in 4 so far... need to try and get inside next week because its been such a waste of money me not going.
The first week I didnt get to speak to anybody and found it just a bit awkward, I also feel on edge that hes going to have a meltdown.

Anyone else like this?

in our community

Who’s at fault for not toilet/potty training the child before starting school?

I was listening to Louise Thompsons podcast where she spoke about children going to school still in nappies.
I personally think parents are at fault with this as I work in a nursery and we have so many children who are going to school in September that are still in nappies and parents have a very cba attitude about it.
I understand if your child has additional needs then it’ll be difficult but we have 2 SEN kids who are fully toilet trained!

How ridiculous is this?!

Not looking for advice or even a rant, more just to laugh about this ridiculous "toddler moment" 🤣 My 15 month old (she's more of an 18 month/two year old) has just learnt the word "flower" and loves to smell them! My husband brought me home some flowers yesterday evening (he must be after something 🤣) which I put on a vase at the dinning table and now all my LO wants to do is smell the bloody things! Breakfast took us an hour including all the "flower breaks" and lunch has just taken us AN HOUR AND A HALF! We have also had 3 full blown tantrums because I've said no more flowers and put them away and 1 were I told her off for climbing up the chairs to try and reach them... 🙄 Its very cute and hearing her say "mumma flower" and scrunch her nose up like she's pretending to smell, melts my heart but also I've had enough now 🤣

ADVICE NEEDED

Am I a bad mum for wanting to go back to work at 3 months PP, for context we live in the uk. My partner is coming back from work arguing with me daily saying shit like “you’ve been home all day it’s easier for you” and “what do you do all day nothing” and i have fucking had enough I do not sit on my fucking ass I look after a baby and toddler 24 fucking 7. I’m fuming tbh. I have never seen him wake up at night for the new baby, I do the night shift then wake up for my toddler and also cook and clean. I am also exclusively pumping to BF my baby. The absolute fucking audacity of this little cunt. I would much rather be at work let’s be honest it’s much easier than being at home and dealing with this bullshit. It’s quite upsetting that it’s gotten to this as I am only 3 months PP considering reaching out to work so I can catch a break and not be sat at home. Honestly, let him pay for nursery and realise how fucking cheap his labour was when I was staying home with the baby. I’ve had enough

Mother’s Day flop

Just looking to vent, maybe make someone else out there not feel so alone. My spouse didn’t do anything for Mother’s Day and hardly gave me a hug. Granted he was working but he asked earlier what I wanted and I just wanted a heart felt gesture. Said maybe a card, maybe flowers, maybe a massage. Or something from my Amazon list, whatever he wanted to pick. Guess I shoulda just told him something, didn’t think he’d just shrug that off. Mentioned it to him yesterday and he said our vacation a week before counted… just at a loss ladies. Too numb from all this nonsense to even care anymore.

Venting..

I'm getting lonely..
I have a husband, we'll ex husband. We're together, have been for 12 years. If not longer lol.
Alp he wants to do is drink, when he doesn't get to he's moody and seems like he hates everything. Ik he has a problem, he's just not that interested in fixing it. We could talk about it one day, and he's totally on board for slacking down but it's just talk.
I want our child to have a great childhood, I don't want her seeing him like that. I make sure shes in bed by a certain time.
Iwant to cry, ik people will say leave. It isn't that simple, I'm a sahm, don't drive, don't have help family wise.
I do love him, I wish I could help him but I know it's something he has to want. I'm just so sick of crying every other night, I'm sick of not feeling loved, I'm sick of walking on eggshells most nights bc he's a bit too buzzed and wants to argue.
Idk what to say to fix this, I know he wants better for our kid but how is that ever gonna happen like this.. I've been trying so hard to straighten our lives up, but I can't do this on my own...
Aside from our child, I need more. I would give anything to be cuddles up too and spent time with, without the sexual grabbing and whiskey breath.

Wedding invite with no kids

I‘ve recently got an invite from my friend for her wedding and her invite stated no kids (unless in the wedding party). It did not include babies on arms, but we have a 2-month old daughter (she will be just four months at the time of the wedding) and she is ebf. My friend knows she is very young, but maybe not aware of the challenge around going somewhere with a baby, as she doesn’t have children yet. For context, we are all in our late thirties, so maybe not that uncommon to expect that someone will have a baby? Would it be awkward to ask to make an exception. If not, how would other mums handle the situation. Has anyone hired a nanny for the day to take along and be in the background and fed baby when needed?