Venting..

I'm getting lonely..
I have a husband, we'll ex husband. We're together, have been for 12 years. If not longer lol.
Alp he wants to do is drink, when he doesn't get to he's moody and seems like he hates everything. Ik he has a problem, he's just not that interested in fixing it. We could talk about it one day, and he's totally on board for slacking down but it's just talk.
I want our child to have a great childhood, I don't want her seeing him like that. I make sure shes in bed by a certain time.
Iwant to cry, ik people will say leave. It isn't that simple, I'm a sahm, don't drive, don't have help family wise.
I do love him, I wish I could help him but I know it's something he has to want. I'm just so sick of crying every other night, I'm sick of not feeling loved, I'm sick of walking on eggshells most nights bc he's a bit too buzzed and wants to argue.
Idk what to say to fix this, I know he wants better for our kid but how is that ever gonna happen like this.. I've been trying so hard to straighten our lives up, but I can't do this on my own...
Aside from our child, I need more. I would give anything to be cuddles up too and spent time with, without the sexual grabbing and whiskey breath.

in our community

MIL question. Would this annoy you? Because it makes me want to stop responding to her altogether but I guess then I’d be the A-hole

She’ll ask me something like “do the kids have a graduation ceremony coming up?” Or “what are you guys doing this weekend” and if I don’t answer right away she’ll double text with a “guess I’ll never know” or “never mind I guess…” it seems so rude and entitled to me like dang it’s literally been a few hours lady and I have a life AND on top of that you have your sons phone number. she’s done it 3 times now in 2 months so it’s just aggravating the crap out of me

My husband is insecure.

My husband and I have been married for a year next month. I knew when we were dating he was insecure, he always told me I looked better than him and i could do better. When we first started dating I used to wear makeup everyday, not for him, but because i did before i met him. Eventually, i stopped wearing as much makeup but it’s because i got tired of doing it and i got pregnant.. i didn’t have the energy. Our daughter is 5m turning 6m on monday and i haven’t felt like myself since having her. Today I was getting ready to go over my best friend house to help her get her daughters 2nd birthday party decorations set up and he came home and saw me and asked why i was wearing makeup and asking who was i trying to impress? i explained i’m not trying to impress anyone.. i just wanted to feel like myself again. mind you i only have on concealer and foundation.. i am so fed up with him and his insecurities. it is so exhausting, i don’t know what to do. please send advice.

Skipping Nursery - or waiting until 3

I’m just curious - has anyone chosen not to take their little ones to nursery and just gone straight to primary school? Or maybe waited until they were around 2-3ish?

What have your experiences been like? ❤️ I know a lot of people love nursery and for most of us it’s a necessity with work - I have no shade towards anyone that does the nursery option at all - I just have this deep feeling like this might not be the right option for me or my little one.

I never hear or see many people sharing their stories or advice about skipping nursery or going at an older age so thought I’d ask! 😊 I’m not against nurseries and socialisation but I would feel more comfortable if he wasn’t still so dependant.

Who’s at fault for not toilet/potty training the child before starting school?

I was listening to Louise Thompsons podcast where she spoke about children going to school still in nappies.
I personally think parents are at fault with this as I work in a nursery and we have so many children who are going to school in September that are still in nappies and parents have a very cba attitude about it.
I understand if your child has additional needs then it’ll be difficult but we have 2 SEN kids who are fully toilet trained!

Going out for dinner

All of those with active boys who just want to run around. What do you do when you go out for a meal? My 2.5 year old does not like sitting still. He just wants to run when we are out. We brought his toy cars with us last time but he wanted to zoom them across the floor and crash them into things 😭 we really don’t want to have to go to devices but it was the only way to actually have him sit at the table and not scream the last time we went out. Any advice please!

Entertaining babies

Help! How on earth does everyone keep their babies from getting bored?

Any tips also for keeping baby entertained on a 5 hour flight?