My husband is insecure.

My husband and I have been married for a year next month. I knew when we were dating he was insecure, he always told me I looked better than him and i could do better. When we first started dating I used to wear makeup everyday, not for him, but because i did before i met him. Eventually, i stopped wearing as much makeup but it’s because i got tired of doing it and i got pregnant.. i didn’t have the energy. Our daughter is 5m turning 6m on monday and i haven’t felt like myself since having her. Today I was getting ready to go over my best friend house to help her get her daughters 2nd birthday party decorations set up and he came home and saw me and asked why i was wearing makeup and asking who was i trying to impress? i explained i’m not trying to impress anyone.. i just wanted to feel like myself again. mind you i only have on concealer and foundation.. i am so fed up with him and his insecurities. it is so exhausting, i don’t know what to do. please send advice.

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So upset right now …Having a chilled day

My husband came home from work and said he didn’t like how much we spent on the wedding because his friend’s partner is apparently spending way less. It really upset me because it felt like our choices and all the effort I put in were being compared and criticised after the fact. I want to bring it up without turning it into an argument…. how would you handle it?

He said “ I really like what she’s doing , you didin’t do that” I was like okayyy?? But I want to confront him coz I’m really upset now!

Grandparents teaching 12 month old to stab with a knife

So yesterday I’m playing with my daughter and she gets her pretend knife and starts doing fast stabbing motions on me and my partner. We both look really confused at each other Because we’ve not taught her that.

Anyways he goes down to his mum and dad and asks what they’ve been teaching her and his mum says ‘we’ve been teaching her what he does in the film psycho when he murders people’ so we’re like riiiiight that’s absolutely not okay.

So we said ‘we’ve been teaching her gentle kind hands’ so it just completely contradicts and disregards what we’ve been teaching so she said ‘it’s only a joke I didn’t think’ but now she will not stop doing it and I’ve had to bin the knife.

She’s started nursery aswell and I’m so scared she tries doing it to another baby and now we look like the bad guys. What do I do??

Advise regarding nursery.

My daughter has been attending nursery since January every Wednesday and Thursday 9-12 we have never had any issues ever. Till last Thursday she had bitten a child and pulled another child’s hair- I was absoloutely mortified as this isn’t the sort of behaviour we have at home my daughter is nothing but kind and gentle and she is the most affectionate kind and gentle little 2 year old. I shrugged off last Thursdays issue and put it down to being tired and developmental. This week she attended Wednesday with no issues had amazing day. My mother collected her today and the same incident happened and again my mum explained this is not normal behaviour for my daughter and asked how they were supporting her from preventing this happening as it doesn’t appear to be happening on Wednesdays. They said that Thursdays are very busy and have a lot of children in and she could be getting overwhelmed tired etc and they mentioned Thursdays can be typically challenging with the amount of children so basically they’re unable to keep an eye on all children.

Another incident last week I picked up my daughter on Thursday her nappy was so soiled it clearly hadn’t been checked but I shrugged it off and thought nothing of it then today my mother collected her from nursery and she was covered in feices where it had seeped all through her vest and her clothes so my mother asked them to change her and they had mentioned that she was sore- my daughter never leaks through her nappy and we never have any issues of her being sore except from the days she had nursery- I’ve emailed them my findings and concerns but what would you do.

I will add that my daughter is always excited to go to nursery and loves being there but with these concerns I feel like I just want to remove her from the setting- it hurts my heart that she is potentially hurting other children in there care to which she has smaller cousins and she never hurts them.

Advice please

Does my fiancé suck?

Am I tripping but, I think he's been absolutely rubbish. He was terrible at the hospital moaning about the chairs and went home to sleep, didn't even ask if it's okay, had a go at me after our son was born saying he will leave me if I don't change, I just had a emergency c section and epidural didn't work so I had to be asleep which was very traumatic. He made me feel so unsafe, he left me in the hospital after son was born just me and him, I had a catheter in, having to try and look after a baby for the first ever time! Then he was rubbish at home, hardly helped really he spent whole day on computer and when I asked why aren't you helping he said he's getting me prepared for when he goes back to work, although he booked an extra week of work! When I go to my mother's he doesn't message asking how our son is. He doesn't do any night feeds, baby is formula fed because my milk stopped more than likely due to stress. We had an argument the other night and he walked out after pushing me over and went to his mother's leaving me crying looking after a baby I had been looking after all day, exhausted. Many times he has told me he is isn't going to marry me, tells me I need to change. I'm just at my wits end, he is the reason I had postpartum depression 100% on Saturdays he doesn't wake up. For mother's day I said I wanted pancakes, he made me toast ... He never wants to go anywhere, moans if we have to food shop. HELP we just bought a house together and have this new baby, I don't know what to do.

Is this a good idea for nursery days?

For a 3 year old in a school nursery setting to do -
Tuesdays full day
Thursdays full day
Friday morning only

He’s never been to nursery before and which days doesn’t bother me cause I’m off with my other child anyway and all I know is that I don’t want Mondays to be a day he goes.
I’m just not sure if to do the two full days back to back at the end of the week (with Fridays half day)

How do you manage toddler screen time?

We allow one or two episodes of teletubbies at breakfast because he won't stop crying otherwise. And maybe one episode when it's time to make dinner....so we can actually make dinner! In the day I try and say no TV time. He's 20 months so I don't think he understands...he just wants it all the time we're at home now...if he doesn't get it I deal with tantrums the entire time I'm trying to get anything done.
Any tips on how to cope with this or do I just have to implement a total TV ban and somehow not have a breakdown with the all day tantrums