Grandparents teaching 12 month old to stab with a knife

So yesterday I’m playing with my daughter and she gets her pretend knife and starts doing fast stabbing motions on me and my partner. We both look really confused at each other Because we’ve not taught her that.

Anyways he goes down to his mum and dad and asks what they’ve been teaching her and his mum says ‘we’ve been teaching her what he does in the film psycho when he murders people’ so we’re like riiiiight that’s absolutely not okay.

So we said ‘we’ve been teaching her gentle kind hands’ so it just completely contradicts and disregards what we’ve been teaching so she said ‘it’s only a joke I didn’t think’ but now she will not stop doing it and I’ve had to bin the knife.

She’s started nursery aswell and I’m so scared she tries doing it to another baby and now we look like the bad guys. What do I do??

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Can I just add I’ve been umming and arring about the looking after her from the day she was born about little things they do that I don’t agree on, completely having no respect for our boundaries as parents BUT THIS has hit the nail on the head with me.

I’ve told my partner I don’t want them to have unsupervised contact but he can’t understand why and says ‘we’ve told them not to do it anymore leave it now’ but no I don’t think it’s acceptable AT ALL I’m disappointed and disgusted

Oh my gosh someone needs to have a really strong word with the grandparents that’s such a reckless thing to do.

At my friends nursery a kid went around threatening to stab the other kids, I doubt he knew what it meant, but all the parents became very wary (don’t want their children near him) and concerns were raised about what that child was experiencing at home. I wouldn’t be surprised if social services were called - I expect if children are imitating violent behaviour that they should not have been exposed to it will be reported.

I would speak to the nursery and explain the situation and reassure them that you are on top of it.

Try to teach the your baby other fun stuff so they forget about the knife thing.

Perhaps show the grandparents this thread so they can see the problems they’ve caused. I’d be fuming, so sorry you have to deal with this x

Are they your parents or his? If yours you need to tell them and if his he needs to tell them, if he’s the type that doesn’t like telling them, he needs to man up and grow as pair as it’s not okay, that’s crazy! I’d really be setting firm boundaries, I’m a strong believer in he tells his parents and I tell mine.. it’s easier for your in laws to hate you than it is their own child if that makes sense? If things have been bothering you in the past then boundires haven’t been set prior. Now is the time to really start setting them. I’d be telling my other half ( if it his parents) to get the absolutely f*cking told, and that from here on out anything like that again, contact is done. We live in a crazy messed up world as is and if my in laws ever did something like that with my kid ( they absolutely wouldn’t anyway coz wtf? ) they would be told to stop, if they don’t stop, that’s it. Done. No way should anyone be teaching a child that. I’m sorry if my answer is abrupt. Im on your side x

Sorry this is absolutely insane what the hell were they thinking😳 or clearly they weren’t… 🤦🏼‍♀️

They would never see my child again

I’m a parent stressed out as it is, we as a couple are going through so much why do we need this extra stress put on us!!! It could of been avoided

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