How do you manage toddler screen time?

We allow one or two episodes of teletubbies at breakfast because he won't stop crying otherwise. And maybe one episode when it's time to make dinner....so we can actually make dinner! In the day I try and say no TV time. He's 20 months so I don't think he understands...he just wants it all the time we're at home now...if he doesn't get it I deal with tantrums the entire time I'm trying to get anything done.
Any tips on how to cope with this or do I just have to implement a total TV ban and somehow not have a breakdown with the all day tantrums

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Thats unfortunately an addiction to screen time. Under 2s aren't meant to have any screen time and any other age is a maximum of 1 to 2 hours as it is so destructive for their brain. I would try and cut TV out all together if I were you. I know its not easy at all but it'll be so much better for all of you!

To be honest, if he wants it all the time it might be helpful to do a reset- get rid of it altogether. You may be in for a tough few days but he will adapt and get over it- then you can reintroduce at times that are under your control and see how it goes from there. I've done this before after a lot of screen time with an illness, I found the more mine got the more she wanted. So we did as I described and were able to reintroduce with no issues. We were having 30 mins a day with milk before bath time but have recently cut that out in favour of an evening walk and she isn't fussed at all, she loves the walk and it's healthier for all of us. So now we just do it a couple of times a week ☺️ edit to add- I recommend a toddler tower/similar so he could watch/help with meal prep! Mine also has a spray bottle of water and cloth that she uses to wipe down the kitchen cabinets and her construction vehicles while I'm cleaning, and a little Henry!

When my son was younger i had the tv on constantly, for background noise and playing nursery rhymes. Then i noticed he didnt care that i was playing with him anymore, he wasnt engaging with me just watching the tv even though he cried in the first place for me to sit with him. From then i banned the tv. He had tantrums sure. But he was younger so he got out of it pretty quickly. Then i slowly introduced it back in under different circumstances, only during meal times. He dont throw tantrums anymore when i change it over or turn it off. So i feel like you may need to go cold turkey, lock it off until you feel like its ready to be introduced IF you want to introduce it again. Its known that under 2s shouldnt have tv at all, but i understand that it can make things easier when helping them be entertained to wait for food to be made.

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