Does my fiancé suck?

Am I tripping but, I think he's been absolutely rubbish. He was terrible at the hospital moaning about the chairs and went home to sleep, didn't even ask if it's okay, had a go at me after our son was born saying he will leave me if I don't change, I just had a emergency c section and epidural didn't work so I had to be asleep which was very traumatic. He made me feel so unsafe, he left me in the hospital after son was born just me and him, I had a catheter in, having to try and look after a baby for the first ever time! Then he was rubbish at home, hardly helped really he spent whole day on computer and when I asked why aren't you helping he said he's getting me prepared for when he goes back to work, although he booked an extra week of work! When I go to my mother's he doesn't message asking how our son is. He doesn't do any night feeds, baby is formula fed because my milk stopped more than likely due to stress. We had an argument the other night and he walked out after pushing me over and went to his mother's leaving me crying looking after a baby I had been looking after all day, exhausted. Many times he has told me he is isn't going to marry me, tells me I need to change. I'm just at my wits end, he is the reason I had postpartum depression 100% on Saturdays he doesn't wake up. For mother's day I said I wanted pancakes, he made me toast ... He never wants to go anywhere, moans if we have to food shop. HELP we just bought a house together and have this new baby, I don't know what to do.

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I'm sorry you're going through this! But this guy doesn't deserve to have you around! If during his vulnerability he behaved this way, what will be the next step? Sell the house and kick his ass! We only have one life to be happy, rather alone than in bad company! If you need a friend, you can send me a message! Many blessings to you!

Hi , sorry you’re going through all these . No one should be made to feel this way . Theres a lot to unpack here but I hate to say this IMO he’s not being supportive and kind to you right now. There are major red flagsss , is it possible that all these were happening pre pregnancy and during pregnancy as well?
You need to surround yourself with people that can improve your wellbeing daily ; glad you have your mom .
It’s important to nip it in the bud now, have a conversation if he’s willing and sort of know where you both stand . I can imagine that will be difficult because you just bought a house together and baby is involved.
Remember your peace of mind is priceless and you deserve to be loved deep without all these chaos. Wishing you all the best x

Whoa. I literally cannot believe some men are like this. Honestly you’d be better off without him. This is literally the opposite of how my husband was so YES your Fiancée absolutely sucks both as a partner, and a dad.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, he doesn’t seem very supportive. I had an emergency c section in hospital, lost blood and had infection we were in hospital for two weeks my fiancé was with me the whole time he would do all the feeds as I couldn’t move and half way through he had to go back to work in the day as self employed so had family to keep me company but he was very supportive and made sure I had family with me when we finally got home as he still had work in the daytime. He never wanted to leave my side but had to, he saw me at my absolute worst and said how much he cares about me after seeing me after my c section I had to go back into theatre, I remember a nurse asked him to step outside and he said no and stood in the corner. He cried with my mum after. I suffered so bad with my MH he was just so supportive I couldn’t imagine how it would have been like if he wasn’t.

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