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So upset right now …Having a chilled day

My husband came home from work and said he didn’t like how much we spent on the wedding because his friend’s partner is apparently spending way less. It really upset me because it felt like our choices and all the effort I put in were being compared and criticised after the fact. I want to bring it up without turning it into an argument…. how would you handle it?

He said “ I really like what she’s doing , you didin’t do that” I was like okayyy?? But I want to confront him coz I’m really upset now!

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Right I confronted him saying “ I didn’t like that comment u made that pissed me off , he went quiet …. I said “ u nt even asking what comment and he replied saying “ I clearly do im not a kid” . I then asked yh so what have u got to say about it “ okay i hear you” that’s what he said to me you all

I'm assuming the two of you budgeted together at the least, it sounds like he didn't help with the planning much in which case he should just keep quiet and be grateful for your efforts! I would lead by saying you're upset because it sounds like he wasn't happy with your wedding. And ask why he didn't raise at the time that there are issues? Every couple is different and every wedding is different, idk the details but if it's about saving money that usually involves making things yourself/being creative which is often not possible for everyone in terms of time or ability. You could say to him "it's possible to compliment and talk about their choices without comparing them to mine. That made me feel upset because I loved our day and I did put a lot of time and effort in, and I thought you loved it too. If you wanted ideas to save money we could have talked about it at the time and worked out ideas together, there's nothing we can do about it now"

If he likes what she did why didn’t he do that himself lol. He can make decisions too instead of blaming you for something that wasn’t an issue at the time and only is now he sees someone else doing different. ignore him. if he was that bothered about having a cheaper wedding then why didn’t he… have a cheaper wedding lol

Bit of a moot point if you've already had the wedding 🤷🏼‍♀️
Tell him to put on his big boy pants in future and tell you at the time

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