ADVICE NEEDED

Am I a bad mum for wanting to go back to work at 3 months PP, for context we live in the uk. My partner is coming back from work arguing with me daily saying shit like “you’ve been home all day it’s easier for you” and “what do you do all day nothing” and i have fucking had enough I do not sit on my fucking ass I look after a baby and toddler 24 fucking 7. I’m fuming tbh. I have never seen him wake up at night for the new baby, I do the night shift then wake up for my toddler and also cook and clean. I am also exclusively pumping to BF my baby. The absolute fucking audacity of this little cunt. I would much rather be at work let’s be honest it’s much easier than being at home and dealing with this bullshit. It’s quite upsetting that it’s gotten to this as I am only 3 months PP considering reaching out to work so I can catch a break and not be sat at home. Honestly, let him pay for nursery and realise how fucking cheap his labour was when I was staying home with the baby. I’ve had enough

in our community

Who’s at fault for not toilet/potty training the child before starting school?

I was listening to Louise Thompsons podcast where she spoke about children going to school still in nappies.
I personally think parents are at fault with this as I work in a nursery and we have so many children who are going to school in September that are still in nappies and parents have a very cba attitude about it.
I understand if your child has additional needs then it’ll be difficult but we have 2 SEN kids who are fully toilet trained!

Mother’s Day flop

Just looking to vent, maybe make someone else out there not feel so alone. My spouse didn’t do anything for Mother’s Day and hardly gave me a hug. Granted he was working but he asked earlier what I wanted and I just wanted a heart felt gesture. Said maybe a card, maybe flowers, maybe a massage. Or something from my Amazon list, whatever he wanted to pick. Guess I shoulda just told him something, didn’t think he’d just shrug that off. Mentioned it to him yesterday and he said our vacation a week before counted… just at a loss ladies. Too numb from all this nonsense to even care anymore.

Venting..

I'm getting lonely..
I have a husband, we'll ex husband. We're together, have been for 12 years. If not longer lol.
Alp he wants to do is drink, when he doesn't get to he's moody and seems like he hates everything. Ik he has a problem, he's just not that interested in fixing it. We could talk about it one day, and he's totally on board for slacking down but it's just talk.
I want our child to have a great childhood, I don't want her seeing him like that. I make sure shes in bed by a certain time.
Iwant to cry, ik people will say leave. It isn't that simple, I'm a sahm, don't drive, don't have help family wise.
I do love him, I wish I could help him but I know it's something he has to want. I'm just so sick of crying every other night, I'm sick of not feeling loved, I'm sick of walking on eggshells most nights bc he's a bit too buzzed and wants to argue.
Idk what to say to fix this, I know he wants better for our kid but how is that ever gonna happen like this.. I've been trying so hard to straighten our lives up, but I can't do this on my own...
Aside from our child, I need more. I would give anything to be cuddles up too and spent time with, without the sexual grabbing and whiskey breath.

Moses basket

My sons a week old now and we currently don’t have a Moses basket for down stairs. Wondering if it would still be worth getting one? We have a snuzpod 5 upstairs but I can’t bring it down due to having a c section.
Also what age to Moses baskets last them till?

Is baby bored?

Anyone else feel like they’re not doing enough for baby during the day for entertainment? I just feel like her days are so repetitive and I’m not doing enough. I don’t know if this is just me projecting…

Mornings we play, get ready, she watches us get ready etc. Then breakfast, more play, a walk. If the weather is bad we will go for a drive and walk around a department store for a bit, go to coffee shops etc. Sees her grandparents. I have a part time nanny who comes and plays with her, takes for a walk etc. But I just feel like it’s all so boring and the same thing? I haven’t taken her to any baby classes yet - do they really enjoy them?

Activities

What activities have you started doing with your little one?

Trying to get some ideas :)