Finger food

I tried finger food at 6 months and it felt a bit pointless tbh so I've been doing spoon feeding. Baby eats most things and ate loads as they are a high percentile baby.

At the 9-12 month review they said they should do more finger food, so I felt guilty that I did it wrong and am now trying more finger food but there is a lot more screaming at meal times..and I'm now confused like with breakfast we used to do weetabix and fruit on a spoon. Now we are doing strips/chunks of fruit to pick up but when I offer weetabix on a spoon there is usually a tantrum, I guess she is now liking picking stuff up. So should I be doing all finger food, but sloppy weetabix is not gonna happen..do I need to make pancakes/egg strips etc? Would rather keep it easy if possible as I'm not the best in the kitchen.

Do you offer spoon and finger food, or do you spoon breakfast and do finger food for lunch? I'm so confused what to do now :(

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Frustrating 😞

I have a 13 month old baby who goes to nursery 3 days a week while hubby and I go to work. She's exclusively breastfeeding but has cows milk off everyone but refuses from me. She constantly wants the boobs with me when I'm home. She's an absolute angel with everyone apart from me!!
She will be whinging all day and I don't go out on my days off cos I'm just so exhausted. I keep feeling down that I don't get myself out on my own with her, I will only ever go out with her when hubby is off. She's very attached to me, I love it but at the same time I just need her to be a little more independent and just be happy but it just feels like a massive battle 😔
Can someone help me with this?!

Was I wrong?

Recently a dear friend of mine passed away, her daughter is also friends with my girls, 6 &5. I invited their friend to my girl's birthday party, and with that I thought it appropriate to mention to my kids that her mother passed away, in case their friend mentions it. I told my girls without their dad present, and instructed them they should not bring it up. He would probably have preferred not saying anything, but I don't want my kids blindsided if their friend mentions it

My husband told me next time we need to do the conversation together. He's a bit more hush hush about discussing certain with our kids as opposed to me. I prefer honest facts opposed to using "kid" terms.

Stolen Bond

I feel like my bf and his mom have stolen my bond with my baby. Upon becoming pregnant I suffered from depression and ofc when I had the baby I suffered from postpartum all the way up until he was about 1 years old.

I wanted the crib on my side of the bed so I could bond with him as I severely needed it and my bf put it on his side… every-time I would wake up to change my son at night my bfs mom would scoop him from my arms and demand I go back to bed. They would never let me be alone with my son. He’s 1.5 and only now have been allowed to go on a walk alone with him. They are Always hovering or taking him away from me. I was told I can’t co-sleep even though I felt like it was a good bonding experience to have that akin to skin with him but they would always berate me for it when I tried.

Turns out his moms been plotting to try and take my son from me and even though I set a boundary for her not to be around my son after she admitted that my bf still allows her to interact with our son.

I’m so lost and feel like I’ve missed so much of my sons life due to them always blocking us bonding and blocking me from being a mother. Has anyone ever experienced this?

Am I doing more harm than good??

Potty training is not going well with my 3 year old. We've been at this on and off for 2 years. Im a single mom with 0 support. I suffer from depression, I get anxiety attacks, and I get so angry with him that I become very cold towards him. This whole situation makes me feel like I should have never become a mother. I used to give up after 10 accidents within the day now I put him in a diaper after the 3rd accident. I do it for my sanity to prevent an anxiety attack and to keep myself from being ugly towards him but is the diaper ruining the process?

Nursery, am I doing the right thing

I’m really feeling uneasy and doubting myself. My son is due to start nursery next month and I am absolutely dreading it. He was born 2 months early and spent 5 weeks in nicu. Since then he and I have not had any time away from each other and nobody other than my husband or I have cared for him. I hate being away from him. The nursery have just contacted to arrange settling sessions and my immediate thought was I don’t want him going and that I can’t do it. I’m trying to see if I could change my job to something where I either work evenings or early mornings and only send my lo to nursery for half a day. I don’t know what to do or what is right😭 also really worried that if I do send him to nursery it will break the bond that he and I have got. Not sure if this a sign we are just not ready yet

If a child hits your child in the head with a basketball at school, would you expect that child's mother to reach out to you?

I feel some sort of acknowledgment or apology is needed. This kid is a huge problem. Took my daughter's glasses off her face, tried to hit her, all while in P.E. The teacher did NOT notify me as he said he didn't witness it. The main teacher told me when I picked her up from school. I've seen the mom and the bad ass little boy since and still no word.

This is a kid that throws chairs and flips the bird at his teachers and calls them bitches and to shut up. He's awful. I've witnessed it in real time. I'm not sure what his history is or what struggles he's had, but I would seriously wonder about the person he'll grow into if I were his mother