Was I wrong?

Recently a dear friend of mine passed away, her daughter is also friends with my girls, 6 &5. I invited their friend to my girl's birthday party, and with that I thought it appropriate to mention to my kids that her mother passed away, in case their friend mentions it. I told my girls without their dad present, and instructed them they should not bring it up. He would probably have preferred not saying anything, but I don't want my kids blindsided if their friend mentions it

My husband told me next time we need to do the conversation together. He's a bit more hush hush about discussing certain with our kids as opposed to me. I prefer honest facts opposed to using "kid" terms.

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I formula fed, im the one working parent, i slept trained (ferber) and my kid and i diddnt baby wear enough.

Hes a happy, calm, sweet kid and has a great bond with dad. No bond with me besides occasional excitement when i get home because the dogs get excited and he loves the dogs. Evey twat on the internet loves to tell me how this is all my fault and ive broken him and its too late to build the bond and hes just going to grow up fucked up and hating women and will hate himself. I know i need to just touch grass for a bit but i tried that and it really hasnt helped. I already see every specialist and crazy dr under the sun and apparently this is the best im ever gonna get.
Did i blow it? Is everyone else right? Hes not even 2 yet.

Kisses

Interested to know why some parents don't let other family members kiss their baby?

Baby refusing solids 🤯

Hi everyone! My baby is 8 months old. We’ve been trying to introduce solids since 6 months. He used to eat small amounts of purees but now refuses completely when I try to offer more textured (mashed) foods instead of purees. I’ve tried so many different foods but he refuses all of them. Has anyone experienced something like this? I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to force it but it also doesn’t seem like he will accept it on his own.

Is this acceptable?

We had an awful incident in the park today. My daughter (who is only 2 and a half!!!) was playing and this boy the same age came into the tunnel. I heard her scream I want to get out and then the other mum came over and was like shouting and saying that it isn’t kind and that you have to share and what a horrible child etc. I thought she was speaking to her own child but when I went in and said please can you move over and let her out the mum was like your child can’t behave like that and then I realised she was talking to my daughter and telling her off! She claimed that my daughter had kicked her son, I didn’t see this or believe that it happened as I was watching and her son didn’t look upset or flinch at all. I do know she isn’t an angel and doesn’t always like to share, she’s learning, she’s 2 and a half!

I asked her politely not to talk to my child like that and she went mental saying that the world doesn’t revolve around her, of course I think she’s perfect and I’m raising an awful human being and not fit to be a parent. She was also imitating my little girl. I was with two friends, one who is male, who stepped in and said it wasn’t acceptable and that the women absolutely should not be talking to a 2 year old like that as well as to me. She then started saying that it wasn’t okay for a man to be arguing with her and he was a waste etc. I know it shouldn’t bother me because she was just an absolute idiot but it’s really affected me and I’ve cried a lot about it. I just wondered what other people’s thoughts were?

Worst of all my little girl keeps asking why the lady was shouting and saying she’s scared to go out in case she sees that lady.

Hes wearing a ring and im not?

I dont know how I feel about this. Hes been trying to find good jobs mentioning he has a family and how they need to pay him more and respect his time. Which im okay with. I see the ring on his finger now that hes got a new job and it bothers me. Because of some things in the past that he hasn't taken responsibility for. I honestly dont think he knows what that is. Its because hes been comfortable. Uber driving for years. Living at his mother's house and doing his own thing. If I ask him to do something simple like put a few dollars in my tank he will refuse, he will belittle and its exhausting. The other day I was bent over and barely could walk because of my UTI. And i needed him to go to the pharmacy fpr me and pick up my daughter. When he called and saw i hadnt paid for it yet he was so shitty. And i ended up going to get the 18$ medication myself and told him i would pick up my daughter. Even though he saw i was hurt he slept like a baby even with a smile on his face. When he saw i was up all night and bothered. The first time he got me pregnant, it was terrible. He turned against me and tried to get everyone at work to as well and ended up making me quit my job when I had no money. The reason why he lashed out the way he did was because i told a coworker how he doesnt do anything at all and just lives with me. He would rather go get a plastic knife from the car then pick up a dish. He would rather me ask another man for money than ask him and he lied so much for such little and stupid things and never took accountability and would bring up all the things I ever confided in him and the relationship with my family against me to avoid the littlest amount of responsibility. He also kicked me out of his mother's house when I lost the apartment constantly making me live out of my car and still doesnt take responsibility for this.
So i was constantly being gaslighted and he ran away back to his mother's house in every argument. Money always seems to be a problem for us. Recently I cut him off for 3 weeks. He sent flowers said he would help out more and not make me feel like. Im asking for the world if I ask him to help me cut some lemons to i could make us fresh lemonade or to get something for me if im already sitting down. And ill say this hes been making progress. He will gets groceries and not act out in a bad way because he did something simple for me. Our disagreements have gotten a bit easier. He stays calm and doesnt scream and yell. But I need him to take actual accountability for putting me in constant unstable situations. And not coming up with excuses for his behavior. Im willing to go to couples therapy with him. We've been dating for a year. And I do think he'll propose. And has good intentions. Hes really good with our daughte rand theyve formed a bond. But we have some things to work out first.

Nervous about leaving him

Hey, my LO will be 8 weeks this Sunday, im going on a hen do tomorrow and im absolutely terrified - i really dont want to miss it as it’s my sisters hen do and im the MOH so id be devastated. But im really nervous about leaving my baby with his dad.
Dad is great with baby, he has him a lot through the day, does feeds, nappies, playtime etc. he works from home so they do get a lot of time with each other but not like he does with me so he doesnt settle well with him. He still comes to me for comfort. I know this is normal, but how am i supposed to leave them tomorrow, i feel absolutely terrible, does it pass? Any advice?