Nervous about leaving him

Hey, my LO will be 8 weeks this Sunday, im going on a hen do tomorrow and im absolutely terrified - i really dont want to miss it as it’s my sisters hen do and im the MOH so id be devastated. But im really nervous about leaving my baby with his dad.
Dad is great with baby, he has him a lot through the day, does feeds, nappies, playtime etc. he works from home so they do get a lot of time with each other but not like he does with me so he doesnt settle well with him. He still comes to me for comfort. I know this is normal, but how am i supposed to leave them tomorrow, i feel absolutely terrible, does it pass? Any advice?

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When my baby was 4 and a half months I had my own hen do and I hated it I just wanted to go home the whole time x

Don’t feel terrible, don’t miss the hen do. Your baby has two parents and actually it’s probably a good thing to leave them with the dad and start trying to get her used to him for comfort. It’s so normal for babys and so are your feelings but honestly, I done this with my first and was still making excuses for everything when she was nearly 2. I done it differently with my second two and it’s hard but wow it made such a difference

I’m not sure if baby is your first, but I was like this for mine and I couldn’t bare the thought of leaving baby with anyone in case if anything happened to him. I had a wedding with my husband to go to around 4 nonths which I think was the first time I left him and it was so difficult leaving him - but when I was there I had a lovely time and it did me the world of good to have that time away.

The only advice I can give is you’ll have a lovely time I’m sure when you’re there, maybe video call dad to see how baby is doing if you miss them? And also I used to think it’ll make me a better mum if I have a break away and press reset without being mum always. Remember you need to put your needs as top priority too xxx

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How ridiculous is this?!

Not looking for advice or even a rant, more just to laugh about this ridiculous "toddler moment" 🤣 My 15 month old (she's more of an 18 month/two year old) has just learnt the word "flower" and loves to smell them! My husband brought me home some flowers yesterday evening (he must be after something 🤣) which I put on a vase at the dinning table and now all my LO wants to do is smell the bloody things! Breakfast took us an hour including all the "flower breaks" and lunch has just taken us AN HOUR AND A HALF! We have also had 3 full blown tantrums because I've said no more flowers and put them away and 1 were I told her off for climbing up the chairs to try and reach them... 🙄 Its very cute and hearing her say "mumma flower" and scrunch her nose up like she's pretending to smell, melts my heart but also I've had enough now 🤣

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Am I a bad mum for wanting to go back to work at 3 months PP, for context we live in the uk. My partner is coming back from work arguing with me daily saying shit like “you’ve been home all day it’s easier for you” and “what do you do all day nothing” and i have fucking had enough I do not sit on my fucking ass I look after a baby and toddler 24 fucking 7. I’m fuming tbh. I have never seen him wake up at night for the new baby, I do the night shift then wake up for my toddler and also cook and clean. I am also exclusively pumping to BF my baby. The absolute fucking audacity of this little cunt. I would much rather be at work let’s be honest it’s much easier than being at home and dealing with this bullshit. It’s quite upsetting that it’s gotten to this as I am only 3 months PP considering reaching out to work so I can catch a break and not be sat at home. Honestly, let him pay for nursery and realise how fucking cheap his labour was when I was staying home with the baby. I’ve had enough

I formula fed, im the one working parent, i slept trained (ferber) and my kid and i diddnt baby wear enough.

Hes a happy, calm, sweet kid and has a great bond with dad. No bond with me besides occasional excitement when i get home because the dogs get excited and he loves the dogs. Evey twat on the internet loves to tell me how this is all my fault and ive broken him and its too late to build the bond and hes just going to grow up fucked up and hating women and will hate himself. I know i need to just touch grass for a bit but i tried that and it really hasnt helped. I already see every specialist and crazy dr under the sun and apparently this is the best im ever gonna get.
Did i blow it? Is everyone else right? Hes not even 2 yet.

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