Stolen Bond

I feel like my bf and his mom have stolen my bond with my baby. Upon becoming pregnant I suffered from depression and ofc when I had the baby I suffered from postpartum all the way up until he was about 1 years old.

I wanted the crib on my side of the bed so I could bond with him as I severely needed it and my bf put it on his side… every-time I would wake up to change my son at night my bfs mom would scoop him from my arms and demand I go back to bed. They would never let me be alone with my son. He’s 1.5 and only now have been allowed to go on a walk alone with him. They are Always hovering or taking him away from me. I was told I can’t co-sleep even though I felt like it was a good bonding experience to have that akin to skin with him but they would always berate me for it when I tried.

Turns out his moms been plotting to try and take my son from me and even though I set a boundary for her not to be around my son after she admitted that my bf still allows her to interact with our son.

I’m so lost and feel like I’ve missed so much of my sons life due to them always blocking us bonding and blocking me from being a mother. Has anyone ever experienced this?

in our community

I formula fed, im the one working parent, i slept trained (ferber) and my kid and i diddnt baby wear enough.

Hes a happy, calm, sweet kid and has a great bond with dad. No bond with me besides occasional excitement when i get home because the dogs get excited and he loves the dogs. Evey twat on the internet loves to tell me how this is all my fault and ive broken him and its too late to build the bond and hes just going to grow up fucked up and hating women and will hate himself. I know i need to just touch grass for a bit but i tried that and it really hasnt helped. I already see every specialist and crazy dr under the sun and apparently this is the best im ever gonna get.
Did i blow it? Is everyone else right? Hes not even 2 yet.

Kisses

Interested to know why some parents don't let other family members kiss their baby?

Baby refusing solids 🤯

Hi everyone! My baby is 8 months old. We’ve been trying to introduce solids since 6 months. He used to eat small amounts of purees but now refuses completely when I try to offer more textured (mashed) foods instead of purees. I’ve tried so many different foods but he refuses all of them. Has anyone experienced something like this? I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to force it but it also doesn’t seem like he will accept it on his own.

Is this acceptable?

We had an awful incident in the park today. My daughter (who is only 2 and a half!!!) was playing and this boy the same age came into the tunnel. I heard her scream I want to get out and then the other mum came over and was like shouting and saying that it isn’t kind and that you have to share and what a horrible child etc. I thought she was speaking to her own child but when I went in and said please can you move over and let her out the mum was like your child can’t behave like that and then I realised she was talking to my daughter and telling her off! She claimed that my daughter had kicked her son, I didn’t see this or believe that it happened as I was watching and her son didn’t look upset or flinch at all. I do know she isn’t an angel and doesn’t always like to share, she’s learning, she’s 2 and a half!

I asked her politely not to talk to my child like that and she went mental saying that the world doesn’t revolve around her, of course I think she’s perfect and I’m raising an awful human being and not fit to be a parent. She was also imitating my little girl. I was with two friends, one who is male, who stepped in and said it wasn’t acceptable and that the women absolutely should not be talking to a 2 year old like that as well as to me. She then started saying that it wasn’t okay for a man to be arguing with her and he was a waste etc. I know it shouldn’t bother me because she was just an absolute idiot but it’s really affected me and I’ve cried a lot about it. I just wondered what other people’s thoughts were?

Worst of all my little girl keeps asking why the lady was shouting and saying she’s scared to go out in case she sees that lady.

Hes wearing a ring and im not?

I dont know how I feel about this. Hes been trying to find good jobs mentioning he has a family and how they need to pay him more and respect his time. Which im okay with. I see the ring on his finger now that hes got a new job and it bothers me. Because of some things in the past that he hasn't taken responsibility for. I honestly dont think he knows what that is. Its because hes been comfortable. Uber driving for years. Living at his mother's house and doing his own thing. If I ask him to do something simple like put a few dollars in my tank he will refuse, he will belittle and its exhausting. The other day I was bent over and barely could walk because of my UTI. And i needed him to go to the pharmacy fpr me and pick up my daughter. When he called and saw i hadnt paid for it yet he was so shitty. And i ended up going to get the 18$ medication myself and told him i would pick up my daughter. Even though he saw i was hurt he slept like a baby even with a smile on his face. When he saw i was up all night and bothered. The first time he got me pregnant, it was terrible. He turned against me and tried to get everyone at work to as well and ended up making me quit my job when I had no money. The reason why he lashed out the way he did was because i told a coworker how he doesnt do anything at all and just lives with me. He would rather go get a plastic knife from the car then pick up a dish. He would rather me ask another man for money than ask him and he lied so much for such little and stupid things and never took accountability and would bring up all the things I ever confided in him and the relationship with my family against me to avoid the littlest amount of responsibility. He also kicked me out of his mother's house when I lost the apartment constantly making me live out of my car and still doesnt take responsibility for this.
So i was constantly being gaslighted and he ran away back to his mother's house in every argument. Money always seems to be a problem for us. Recently I cut him off for 3 weeks. He sent flowers said he would help out more and not make me feel like. Im asking for the world if I ask him to help me cut some lemons to i could make us fresh lemonade or to get something for me if im already sitting down. And ill say this hes been making progress. He will gets groceries and not act out in a bad way because he did something simple for me. Our disagreements have gotten a bit easier. He stays calm and doesnt scream and yell. But I need him to take actual accountability for putting me in constant unstable situations. And not coming up with excuses for his behavior. Im willing to go to couples therapy with him. We've been dating for a year. And I do think he'll propose. And has good intentions. Hes really good with our daughte rand theyve formed a bond. But we have some things to work out first.

Lack of confidence

I got myself and my little boy ready for baby sensory this morning and just sat outside in the car too nervous to go in 🙈

My husband booked me for 5 classes and i've been to 1 in 4 so far... need to try and get inside next week because its been such a waste of money me not going.
The first week I didnt get to speak to anybody and found it just a bit awkward, I also feel on edge that hes going to have a meltdown.

Anyone else like this?