The crash

Anyone watch the documentary about Mackenzie shirilla? No doubt in my mind she is guilty and her parents too. They enable her behaviour and let her do whatever with no consequences. For her mother to get up on the stand AFTER the two boys families and beg for a lesser sentence and not mention the boys except the one was a new friend… terrible. She did it, she meant it too. I believe she intended to kill herself as well but she didn’t die so they’re making up anything to make her not guilty. Disgusting.

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Feeding

I breastfed my daughter for a year, she had tongue tie and we had thar released, our journey was hard but we got there. I now have a 6 week old son who I breastfeed and it's been a battle, he struggles latching and staying on etc it got a bit better and I definitely have milk, but it's been very hard at times. I'm now at the point where I dread feeding times, it's constantly on my mind, when did I last feed? How long did he feed? Is he going to be uncomfortably upset during or after or both. Etc etc it's a real battle I know he's doing what babies do cluster feed, fuss etc but I just cant manage it. I actually feel like rubbing away. I feel like a failure at everything. I'm like a stuck record going on about it all time. My husbands getting annoyed with me. I just this minute given up breastfeeding as I was crying. Getting annoyed etc it's not fair on my baby. So I got a ready made formula bottle and given him that, although he still had trouble latching on bottle but he did take it.
Why am I still feeling like this and not relieved has taken a bottle. I really wanted to enjoy breastfeeding but I can't. I also don't know why I can't feel good about bottle feeding, when I know it will help us both. I just can't rationalise.
Also how do I just stop making milk if I don't breastfeed?

Should I take milk in my hospital bag?

Hiya,

I’m about to be 39 weeks and so far I seem to have no milk, I’ve tried all the tips of warm massage etc but can’t seem to get anything which makes me think my milk may not come until possibly after baby is born (if at all)

Did anyone else struggle with this or have delayed milk? If so would you recommend me taking some instant baby milk in my hospital bag or would the hospital provide this if my milk hadn’t come in yet?

Sleep schedule

I need some advice.I have a twenty one month old son.His name is miles.He's such a great baby but lately, he's been going down for his normal bedtime. 738 and then wakes up at 12 o'clock at midnight and stays up the rest of night, dancing carrying on. I've done everything song to Em rock. Try to Rock Em to sleep, played his soothing music. You name it, I've done it and it just doesn't work. And it's like he's sleeping. I mean, I haven't saw me, but he's too young to haven't saw me yet. I feel like he thinks he's gonna miss something till lately. Here and there I've been given a melatonin which I know it's just a supplement and it's not addictive. But they can get accustomed to that. And by taking nuts, that's the only way they can go to sleep. And I don't want him to feel like that. And honestly, he's got the gists of what I'm putting something in this milk because he throws the milk bottle. Now and it's horrible. I don't like to give it to him all the time. And sometimes it works, but sometimes it does not.And he is so hyper, he's bouncing off the walls, even worse than he was before.I just need some help.I'm a single mother and i'm not getting a lot of sleep at all.I just need some guidance, please.Ladies

Owlet Sock

Just wondering if anyone else experiences issues with the owlet sock disconnecting from the base station every night?
The base station is less than 10ft from baby and it still disconnects every night without fail 😩
Has anyone used an alternative to the owlet that they would recommend because I’m ready for launching it out the window at this point 😅

Pram on holiday?

Going on holiday to an all inclusive in Crete for 1 week, my daughter will be just turning two the same week, so I need to take a pram/stroller?

Is anyone a health visitor - need advice 🙏🏼

I’m severely struggling as a single parent with no family or other parent.

My toddler is well turned out, cared for, eats well, bathed, cuddled, loved, has external social activities. I give my everything to my child. So they’re not lacking. They are safe.

But I’m not well. Mentally and physically.
I can’t wash, feed myself well, lack of happiness in any aspect. Exhausted. Falling behind on so many things apart from maintaining my daughter.
Going through some external life issues which are exasperating life in the last yr or so. I can’t cope, I’m so low. I’ve had worrying thoughts about maybe it’s best I end things with myself and our pets. And let my daughter be free of everything that’s going towards me failing to survive myself. So lost and falling apart physically and mentally.
I can’t let my daughter down as she’s so attached to me. But I can’t cope.
The toddler phase has ramped up and I don’t know how to deal with the meltdowns. I don’t know how to fix myself. I don’t want her to create a bad start to how she see’s life because I’m hanging by a thread. Sometimes (a lot lately) feel she deserves better.
There’s so much to unpack that I can’t verbalise.

appreciate people might reply and say you’re doing a good job, or it is hard, etc.

But I really need a health visitors opinion on what support I may get. Without them thinking I’m saying I can’t be her mother.

This isn’t coming out well, but I’m dying inside. I don’t want to wake up. I have to admit I can’t do this and she deserves a big family and not a mother drowning in this life